How do I leave this alone?

[GrinchnotHinch]

So a month or so ago I received a phone call from a male friend of my abusive ex, he threatened to kill me, beat up and then kill my children (age 8 & 4) and burn my house down.

I reported them to the police but nothing ever came of it.

I’ve just seen they posted on my towns FB page that them and their girlfriend are offering to make people in need a xmas dinner, the sheer amount of comments calling them a saint and a hero is beyond me.

At first I made my own post calling them out but I’ve deleted it, because it’s Xmas and I don’t want to stoke the flames so to speak. How do I mentally let this go? The thought of everyone thinking they’re an angel when they told me (GRAPHIC TW) they would “drag my autistic 4 year old down the stairs and stamp on his head til he was gone” is just too much for me to handle.

I’m not a vengeful person but this feels so unfair.

It would be good to put an app on your phone to record calls from unknown numbers in future.

Letting things go is difficult but it hurts you more to hold on to these things. They are still controlling you and your responses. Block them on Facebook, block their numbers, block emails from them and concentrate on living the best life you can for you and your children. That is the best revenge.

Thats a serious threat.
I wouldn't worry about the Facebook post, but I'd consider revisiting with the police - or maybe contacting a specialist service like Paladin (stalking advocacy service) regarding your ex and his friend.

I didn’t have him blocked because I never thought I would see him on my page (no mutual friends and never heard of him until I received the phone call) but I’ll definitely do that now thank you

I had minor support off victim support but because it was all verbal threats with no evidence the police couldn’t make much of a case out of it, and he never did do any of the things he threatened

But I’m so sickened that hundreds of people think he’s a xmas angel when I know what he’s capable of after a few drinks, and he made this phone call simply because my ex asked him too... I’d never met the man in my life he was just trying to be “hard”

This sounds awful and your reaction is completely understandable. I would feel the same and I bet you all people would too.. It's an awful position to be put in and what a horrible man he is. Pathetic. I do hope karma gets back to him in a way, to make him understand his appalling actions.
To top it off, there's an array of do gooders on SM (I've come off it and check my FB messages from some friends every few months maybe) who need to keep everyone up to speed with their amazing deeds. Some are genuine obviously, somw are however there for the shower of attention. What's worse is that the new trend is that people need to fall over themselves applauding and commending. In your case, knowing what he's done makes it even more painful. But just think of what kind of sad, sad existence must he have to behave the wayhe did towards you. I would say look back in pity and mentally picture him getting smaller waving a tiny, caricature-like fist trying to be big when he is small, as you laugh at him and carry on with your life. Visualising things helps a lot.
Your life is good now. Do get that app for calls if possible though just for safety for the future. You're free of such idiots, your life is your life and just remember you're not an awful human like him.
Oh and P. S. a lot of people who comment on SM with praising comments are doing it just for show too and are aware of some of the poster's imbecility :))) I promise it's just "adult peer pressure"
Hope you have nice holidays x 🎄

I would probably report it to Admin of FB group. They sound unhinged. Include the police report number from when you filed it incase they want to check.

You've never met this guy but he's on your
FB list? Why?

Just delete him.

Block or hide him from Your fb feed.
You don't need to see his posts. You know he's aggressive, you've reported him to police, you have crime reference. If anyone else reports him foe any other offence, he will have "form" - so he hasn't got "away with it". It potentially could show up in an enhanced DBS check as an allegation / police relevant information if he volunteers or works with vulnerable adults or children. So even if all that occurs is he has to explain, he will be marked. And if he does it again to anyone else.... that'll be two people
describing same behaviour. So he'll never get another "free" shot like this again.
Also did you report it to children services as a risk to your child? Worth considering that... as they don't need evidence and will file it, and MAY investigate it, lower level of evidence required , if he has contact with your child through ex.