To feel a bit flat?

[Ellie2812]

It would be our turn to spend Christmas with DH’s family this year; however, as we’re in a Tier 4 area, it will be just the 2 of us.

A typical Christmas with DH’s family usually involves around 20 people getting together. Today, I found out that DH’s family are still planning on having a ‘normal’ Christmas this year as they have all had Covid at some point and, therefore, they don’t see anything wrong with mixing with each other. SIL explained that they hadn’t mentioned the plans to us as I am heavily pregnant and DH and I are the only ones who have not had Covid, so they wouldn’t want to put us at risk.
Covid is rife in our Tier 4 area so I wouldn’t even dream of meeting up with so many households; however, I feel little upset that we’re going to missing out because we’re being sensible.

This will be the first time we’ve not seen any family at Christmas so I’m just feeling a bit flat tonight. Anyone else feeling a little low? (I appreciate that we’re very fortunate to have each other, and a baby on the way, so this is just self-pitying ☺️)

I have been feeling exactly the same today....feeling really bloody down trodden and fed up...very sad for us all isn't it...missing family etc and things just being different in general.....stay safe x

Tell them all to write you IOU's for next year to cash in!!
Mince pies from aunty Flo.
Quality St from uncle Jack.
Prosecco from mil.

Definitely feeling the same!

We normally have 12 - 15 people round. At the first round of announcements we were going to have 7 across 3 households, mainly dh's family but was fine with that.

Saturday's announcement meant it would be us and fil (support bubble) not ideal but could live with that. (Also in a tier 4 area!)

Dh has had to be tested for covid today after half his team at work testing positive for it so we're now in isolation so even fil can't come round.

I'm also pregnant and we were planning on telling family tomorrow. So yep, definitely feeling the same way!

Totally. My PIL are in a bubble with SIL so they're having a normal Christmas together. My DPs are in a bubble with my DB, SIL and their 6 week old baby so they will be together tomorrow. Meanwhile, DH and I are at home with a very difficult to entertain 16 month old. It could be worse obviously but I'm just sad that we will miss out on it all and no doubt just end up watching too much CBeebies.

Yes I’m feeling flat too. But better after a big rum and coke though. I’m spending the day tomorrow with my friend. We are in a support bubble as live alone so I’m very grateful for that and we are making a nice Christmas lunch. I wish I could see my family though but some are in tier 4 and the rest in Germany. I am missing them so much especially my little DGDs.

YANBU.
We were meant to be going away for xmas, then that got cancelled, invited 2 other households within my family (when it was in the rules) 1 declined as they are v elderly. Now it's just 4 of us.
We normally see my family on Christmas Day and DHs family , about 18 people including DCs cousins on Boxing Day. It's going to feel v quiet.

I’ll join you in self pitying! I had a crap Christmas last year and this year I have covid and will be in isolation until the 27th, so I don’t even get my 1 day of seeing my family it all sucks and I’m royally fed up!

Yes, feeling flat here as well. The Mum and 2 children of the family across the road disappeared on Saturday morning - and the Dad and car have gone tonight. Presuming they have gone to stay with family.

I'd love to see either or DH's family, but we aren't because it's the right thing to do. We are Tier 4 by the way.

I wish tomorrow was over. I’m a doctor, had a hell of a year working in intensive care and was counting down to a week with my family - and then a covid exposure has meant I am alone and self isolating for several more days. I have managed to stop crying but I am broken by this, stayed strong all year but it just feels so unfair.

Big hugs all xxxx

110% with you, it’s absolutely rubbish and our family are choosing to be together without us too. It really hurts and I cried loads as it seems the grandparents are choosing one set of grandchildren over another.

I have decided it’s not going to ruin my Christmas, we are going to have fun regardless. I would suggest trying to get it out your system and have a cry tonight then tomorrow you can try to salvage your Christmas Day and enjoy your last childfree Christmas. Please lounge around, eat loads and relax on behalf for me 🥰

Same here. Luckily we are in tier 2, so will be seeing my parents tomorrow for a short while, but it's quieter than usual, not how we would have planned it otherwise and we are going into tier 4 on boxing day which takes the shine off it all.

DH's family all live in current tier 4 area, so we haven't managed to see them at all, and I feel very sad at this.

I think everywhere is just a lot more mute this year. In a way I will enjoy the closeness and simplicity, but overall miss the loudness and chaos. Here's to next Christmas.

We're seeing some family tomorrow (within the rules) but I still feel incredibly sad. Have cried about 4 different times today.

My mum died a few months ago, my dad is showing signs of what was mild dementia progressing much faster, and despite being one of the lucky ones with a nuclear family at home I still feel both lonely and trapped

Yup. My children are with my ex husband this year for the week, my boyfriend is playing maid to his ex who is self isolating with him, my alcoholic dad called me whilst drunk which tipped me over the edge and I have the most painful uti. I have just wallowed and cried really.

@countbackfromten
Am so sorry, that really sucks thanks for all you and your colleagues do
I hope you can see your family soon x

Me too. We decided ages ago we wouldn't be going to my parents as my Dad is vulnerable and my Mum has been trying to keep him safe all year - just doesn't seem worth it for one day. We will go and say hello in the garden though as we're in the same village. DH has to work too so instead of the usual big family gathering it's just me and the DC for half the day. Siblings are spending Christmas at home too. It's all fine and we're all fortunate to be healthy and have food in the fridge, it's just not the same.