Xmas

[Nana12]

Am I unreasonable to be upset. We can mix in a family of 3 households so me and daughters father-in-law ( both of us single) are going to daughters. I was told I must leave before tea as son in laws adult children and grandchild coming and there would be too many. Should they come and also do they need to as they are not single and alone but I will be alone for the evening. Got upset and now seems I’m not welcome at all as his children come first. What to do?

Then why not ask you daughter to come to your house with you at tea time?

Your exposure will be low?

I personally would love a few hours peace with a hot drink and a packet of biscuits!!

Seems unfair that the choice made is to leave one person alone.
There’s nothing at all fair about Christmas this year.

Bless you OP, some very harsh comments on here, the festive vipers are not taking any prisoners

I think you hit the nail on the head when you said you are amenable, happens in every situation, you're an easy target. Adult children in their twenties could possibly be understanding of your situation, this is a very difficult Christmas for those on their own, after the year we've had.

OP, don't fall out with your DD, but reflect on your input and generosity towards them going forward.

I don't think you need to be so upset about this. Surely you can understand that he wants to see his children on Christmas Day?

They are breaking the rules of course, but I am talking at your personal hurt at being excluded after a certain time.

Daughters should be able to talk to their mum about anything shouldn't they? I don't think there's anything wrong with your daughter explaining that he wants to see his dc and that they're worried about numbers, and to ask you to leave by a certain time.

It is a strange Christmas for everyone. Under normal conditions, you would be welcome all day. Many people would consider you lucky as they will be entirely alone all day this year.

If I've understood correctly, you'll be there for present opening and Xmas dinner, but leaving before tea. This is fine imo.

Stop doing so much for them. People won’t respect a doormat.