to ask you who the luckiest person you know is?

[bellibuttun]

Mine is my uncle by marriage who is 50 years old.

He came from an American farming family and had an ideal childhood with happy memories on a farm with friends and family surrounding him and then lots of international travel. He met the perfect woman for him and by the age of 35 had built his dream home in a beautiful location, had an amazing job, and great group of friends, and surrounded by family.

His mother is a multi millionaire, but you would never guess, they are humble and live below their means. In the couples late 30s they had 2 kids, a boy and a girl, exactly what they wanted. The mother quit her job to create the perfect home life exactly as she wanted and they dad became a partner in the firm he worked for. He loved his job and now works part time on a very large salary (they are now in late 40s). They travel four to five times a year and have two very hands on sets of grand parents who each babysit once a week and adore taking the kids for a weekend. All get along great. Both grandparents are wealthy and buy the couple whatever they want or need including a hot tub, very expensive car etc. The kids are so happy and live a wonderful exciting life going camping, having sleepovers and adventures. This family know how to travel and how to throw a party.

The family have unlimited free childcare and this Christmas because they havent been able to travel and they have absolutely everything they need the wealthy mother is gifting them a budget of £30,000 for a holiday/s of their choice.

They are set to inherit about £20m.

Who is the luckiest person you know?

Nobody, you only see what they want you to see of their life and you never know what is going on behind closed doors.

I have a single acquaintance/friend in her 40s friend who always tells me how lucky I am. I have a husband, kids, house, flexible job. Not rich but not worrying about paying the bills.

In reality I have a chronic illness and she's had no idea as I've only told a few people as it took me a while to come to terms with. She doesn't see me on my bad days.

Luck is not always what it seems.

Somebody I know has a lovely family and house, studied something she was passionate about at university and has lost a lot of weight (because she wanted to) and has a fantastic figure. On the surface she has a wonderful life but I have a feeling that she's unhappily married.

Me.
I have reasonable health, a job, a home, happy healthy kids, a husband who I adore.
I think to an extent its a state of mind, barring major tragedies /life events.
I'm not wealthy, have debts we're only just about managing and haven't seen my daughter and granddaughter for a year this week thanks to covid but overall I consider myself to be very lucky. I'm content with my lott.

I think I'm pretty lucky. Ive survived attempted murder twice, recovered from three life threating illnesses without any longlasting affects, both my sons have survived prematurity and life threating illness as newborns. There's more and its a lot to go through before 27 years old but I feel I'm very lucky to be here, with my boys and my wonderful husband. I seem to go through great suffering but there is a sense of calm in it all and I always come back fighting

I recently read the book Not a Life Coach - James Smith and it was mindblowing. Its totally changed my perception on so many things. Previously I would have said the lucky ones were the ones with money, freedom and lives luxuries at hand. But now, I value success by my own metrics not societies or someone elses. I decide what makes me happy no one else.

Someone else opportunity of a life time (e.g flying business class) it someone elses routine. Routine is normal, boring and lacks excitement. The high life isnt all its cracked up to be. There are studies to show those who are exposed to extravagant experiences have less value / get less happiness from the small things in life.

The luckies people I know are the ones that have inner happiness, not some phoney version of it doe their instagram

You never know everything.

I've probably got friends who think I'm super lucky (and am in lots of ways). They don't know I had 3 miscarriages between my two kids.

Most people have their cross to bear in one form or another.

I'm lucky, very lucky.

I was a single parent aged 19, I left education with five o levels.

When I retired I was on a v reasonable salary and left with a pension based on that salary. Financially I'm comfortable with no debts. My much loved DD and her partner chose to come and live with me over 15 years ago, so now I'm getting a bit doddery, I'm well cared for.

The cherry on the cake for me, is that despite having had cancer three times, I've never had chemotherapy.

And I've got lovely friends who I care for deeply, and who care for me.

There is really nothing else I could realistically hope for. Of course things have gone very wrong, very badly in my life. But everyone has had that. I survived those times,because I am very lucky, no other reason I can see

@Mammyofasuperbaby you survived attempted murder?! I am so sorry I hope you are ok. Are they the same culprit and are they locked away now?

Anyone who has good mental health, minimum ok parents, friends, education/job, lives on their own, can deal with life, dates/has a partner - someone who wants to be with them, good looking, smart enough not to be utter dumbass, able to leave out of the house....

Those people are lucky to me.

Me, mainly because I know everything about my life.

I have dual citizenship with an EU country
When I was made homeless, we got a self contained flat, that we ended up staying in for only 6 weeks before we got housed.
My son can make me a coffee every morning

I have shit going on in my life but I have the ability to be able to ignore it and not give it headspace over Christmas and then I will deal with it. Whether or not it gets sorted is a different matter, but there is only so much I can do.

I think I’m very lucky, not loaded (I wish) but I have a job I absolutely adore, as has DH, we have 3 healthy young adults/teens, a lovely if getting decrepit house, brilliant neighbours who are the reason the decrepit house will never be sold, countryside on my doorstep to enjoy, a small circle of very loyal friends, the health of my family, a kitten who melts my heart, plans for a puppy to join the family early next year, also plans to walk the West Highland Way in Autumn with aforementioned friends and family. I do feel extraordinarily lucky. I know I am.

I am very lucky.
I left school with no qualifications at all, I didn't take my exams.
I was an unwanted child and constantly told it, I left home as soon as I could and got married young to abusive man. I met another man who said he'd help me to leave but he was abusive as well.
I had several miscarriages.

I am now happily single, have a degree and do a job I love and work with some lovely people.

Me.

I've always been really fortunate with my wonderful father and my health, I find life quite easy and I have the most perfect baby boy born two months ago. I couldn't ask for more.

My grandparents. They were always winning raffles, competitions etc. In the 1950’s they won the football pools - I don’t know the exact amount but it was a few thousand, a huge sum at the time.

Me. Things always just seem to fall into place somehow.

My DP. He met me.

Me. I have everything I want and need. My health, great career, lovely DH, beautiful DD. House in a great area, lots of interests and good friends. Some of it took work, but not perhaps as hard work as someone with more hurdles to overcome might have found it.

Me.

I was horrendously unlucky (I’d list the reasons but they’d be too outing) and then last year I met my husband and this year we had the most perfect baby boy.

I never believed I’d remarry and never believed I could become a mum (after traumatic losses).

Somehow my dreams really did come true.

Really going to need more info on the attempted murders!

I feel lucky. Healthy kids, great hubby & house. Stable income though the pandemic, savings and generally happy. I have the most lovely friend who is the kindest person and she has nothing but bad luck. Tricky birth with her child, ill health for herself & partner, redundancies. She just doesn’t deserve the crap she gets but she keeps going. I don’t understand it really.

Thanks @bellibuttun, im fine. It was 2 different people both exs. One tried to strangle me and the other tried to cut my throat but luckily I convinced them both that they didn't really want to hurt me and they stopped.
No prison time sadly for either, just a slap on the wrist.
Although the cutter had his legs smashed by my brothers and his after numerous other attacks on me and I got my revenge when he went after my little sister -pervert. Hes now on the register and in and out of prison on various charges.
But my life is great so I dont think about them or their miserable crime and drug ridden lives

My cats. Lucky little assholes

I feel quite lucky. Life hasn't always been easy, some bits have been horrendously difficult, but I feel very lucky to have my children, a job I enjoy, to own a home (well the bank own most of it!), to have love in my life.

You need some bad bits to know when it's good.

Me!
I have a lovely lovely husband. Happy healthy children. A comfortable home and a job that I enjoy. Not financially rich my any means but able to buy what I need to. I feel very blessed. Of course there are things that I would change if I could but I do know I am far luckier than a lot of people and hope that in my life life I do make others lives slightly easier and happier.