Do you ‘buy back’ when bosses etc buy for you at Christmas?

[MoonBaby1]

In my case it’s my landlord who always comes laden each Christmas with chocolate and booze for the whole family. Think 4 boxes of crocs, a bottle of fizz and a case of quality ale!!

I was told (can’t remember who buy) that you don’t generally gift back in this case so I haven’t.

He lives in the next village so I could hand deliver a card made by the kids but is that enough?

YABU : give a gift back
YANBU: a card is fine, you pay to live in his old house each month

Not crocs, CHOCS!!!

A box of crocs 😂

I would generally get a gesture like flowers, bottle of wine, and a card for a good boss. But also don’t think you have to!

What do you mean by landlord? As in a pub landlord or you rent a property from him? If the latter why is he your boss?

Sometimes people give employees who are more junior than them and don't expect anything back and similarly some might give to clients but not really sure what this situation is

Do you want to give back? You could give a bottle of wine or something if he is being generous

My boss bought me Prosecco and lindor last year, I bought her running socks and jelly sweets.

Nothing this year (understandably) but I had a nice box of biscuits wrapped up just in case.

Alice : I was trying to find a similar but more common scenario of someone in an authority position so to speak. I’m not sure how common it is for landlords to gift so I was thinking of a more common analogy.

I don't know how common it is for landlords to gift either but I can sort of see why you have made that comparison

I would still just do what you feel comfortable with. You don't need to give anyone a gift but if he is nice and is generous to you then you might want to. It doesn't sound like he gives with them expectation to receive something back.

If they have been doing it for a few years and you haven't gifted back I would take that as a green light that they don't expect anything. My friend had her landlord pop round with something, she hasn't got them anything and had the same query as you!

He has been doing the same since we moved in 4 years ago.

He’s very gruff (but heart of gold type!) and the year I tried giving him a homemade jar of something he just stated that he didn’t like pickles and would never eat it and gave it back 😂.

Yes usually. My boss is lovely, so I sent a present. They are very generous and send each of us a F&M hamper each.
My team members buy for me usually (but no expectations they do so).
My husband also sends his chair a port or similar.

If you have kids get them to make him a card! Attach to bottle of reasonable wine (I mean I get all mine in Lidl) and drop round I’d say.

My kids stick stickers all over the card envelope and ‘illustrate’ it which looks ‘charming’ if getting them to draw it is too much faf.

I think it’s established that you don’t have to buy back for a boss, but nice to get a card if they are generous. If you know them well then you could get something smaller back.