Have been having the odd extended family skype with DP and my fam, and always seems to go the same way, the same family dynamics roll out and our little group seems to get routinely ignored. Fine mainly but tiresome on a monthly basis.
DP's older brother has young triplets so we spend most of the time chatting about them (lovely) and then focusing on everyone else's family news and big life events eg new babies, engagements, one uncle has bought a place abroad and will retire there after lockdown. However DP recently got promoted to HoD at work & headhunted for a new role, and no-one has asked about it or raised a glass etc
Perhaps sour grapes on my part as most of them know individually but he is the younger brother, and I feel bad for the older ones dominating the conversation? Would be nice if DP could just have a congratulations or anything. Think it hit home on the weekend when the grandparents kept asking about the minutiae of DUncle's flight trip/commute/new situation and I just thought, hang on, this is so unfair, we are the rapt audience but our turn never comes...
We have told people individually who seem happy for us (and its not lifechanging news) but its a big deal for DP who has been in the same job for yonks and, well, isnt that what families are for?! Given all our social lives have been massively curtailed anyway.