To not postpone my wedding

[Fressia123]

We're due to get married in mid April. I don't want to postpone as nobody really knows when things will be back to normal. All of my family lives abroad and my sister and I had a massive fall out because she said o had to wait until our DM can come for sure. I've always planned to have one wedding in my birth country and a religious one over here. Both of those two whenever it's easy and straightforward to plan. I've got both my DMs and DFs blessing, they both said that if the pandemic has taught them anything is to live in the here and now and to do what makes me happy.

Do what you want and tell your sister to plan her wedding to suit what she thinks is acceptable.

Your sister can live her life. You can live yours.

You're happy and your parents have given their blessing (which sounds important to you), so I'd go ahead in your position.

It’s so hard. Our daughter has postponed once and it looks like she might have to postpone again. It certainly steals the joy and excitement of planning. We’ve suggested that she thinks about going ahead with a different version if she can’t do as she wants this time around. Even do a wedding combined with a fantastic holiday without us. Goodness knows they could do with a holiday.

You have to consider others but do what is right for you. If your parents are OK, then do it your way.

If your sister is getting married then it's her decision but while she's not, it's not for her to say

She just wouldn't understand why it was so hard for me to postpone. And I get it, we own a house, have a baby, etc... But at the same time I'm not comfortable with this and not being married. Then she said I never asked about her opinion for dates (I would never had anyways). When we chose April we thought things would be slightly more normal. I'm.not sure anymore, but I never wanted a big wedding anyways.

We postponed once, then went ahead with a totally different, much smaller wedding in August. I’m so glad we did. I completely understand people wanting what they originally planned, and not wanting to feel they had a lesser day because of coronavirus, but I don’t know any couples who have enjoyed the postponements and replanning and stress... I think unless you want to put a pin in it for a few years, it’s affected anyway. And ours was so different but so lovely, I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Someone could always call your mum in. Our venue were really lovely with things like that - and the registrar had a load of ideas for making absent people feel included! We didn’t need them in the end, but there are options if you want them.

Do what you feel is right

You are getting married for love. Not a show. Do what you want

Yes my DFs only request was to have some sort of webcast, I said that wouldn't be a problem. I've waited my whole life to.marry the one I love (figuratively speaking) I don't feel I can wait any longer.

It’s your wedding, your life, your decision. I’d of loved a small wedding just about me and DH

My sister got married in July. At one point we thought they might only be allowed 3 guests (plus them and minister to make 6). We told them to go ahead. They were actually allowed 30 to the ceremony so we got to go. I would be very sad for my mum if she couldn't have been there, but she herself would have said go ahead. Ĺater there can be a blessing/party etc.

Just do it. It sounds like you really want to and you've had the perfect answer from your parents- just do it.

My DM knows that I'm completely up for eloping. Not that I don't like anyone, but inline the idea of having something completely private. I've always been completely honest about it, she's been OK with it.

I don't even want my sister there. I know we'll have a fight and don't want that the overshadow my day.

So if you don’t want your sister there, and your partner us ok about it, just go and get married with two witnesses then tell everyone, particularly if you are planning a wedding in your home country at some point

Then just tell everyone

That's where we don't see eye to eye. He doesn't want to elope and then tell everyone. He wants his DM to be there and she can't travel because of the Tier system then we'd postpone. It's he's only redline.

Have a small wedding and when restrictions are over, some form of celebration or party when all can come. Perhaps your first wedding anniversary.

Everyone I know who has had a small wedding has had a marriage long lasting, incidentally, so hope it brings you the same good fortune.

We got married this year - we were lucky, indeed, where we are we were allowed with 100 people and we only had 83 to begin with. It was THE BEST DAY of my life! I know, what a cliche, but it was perfect, we had every single person we loved there, we had fun, I got married to the love of my life.

Everyone and their mother were cancelling their weddings, most of them because they wanted 300+ people.

And guess what. 1 month after the wedding my FIL died. I am so happy we went ahead!

Do you, and your sister can do whatever! Enjoy!

You will get to celebrate with both your parents. But this is something you do for yourself and H To be!

We're visiting been our venue and it's very cute!