Aibu to not mix with Dr brothers this Christmas even though husband is a teacher?

[HarleyQuinn33]

Just need perspective
I have 3 month old and my brother's want to visit this Christmas. Both doctors. Older one has had covid and works on covid wards. Younger one hasn't had it yet. I am being told I am unreasonable to keep my son separate as my husband is a secondary school teacher and sees many kids per day. My brother's say they are careful and wear PPE. They have not observed any of the govt rules so far and feel that my son is not at risk so I shouldnt worry. They tell me that if I follow the govt rules he will be developmentally delayed as lockdown will continue on and he won't see anyone.

They're being arseholes! Stand your ground. Your house, your family, your rules. Everyone needs to minimise risk/travel/exposure as much as possible right now. Your baby is NOT going to be developmentally delayed in the slightest by not seeing these 2 idiots!

Thank you all for your feedback. I think it's hard to know what to do in this situation but I do feel like even if they have valid points they are ramming them down my throat rather than respectfully positing their ideas. The idea was that we were going to gather at my parents house for Christmas but I decided it was unwise given what's going on.

I work in the NHS, staff are certainly not tested regularly everywhere. Even if they have full PPE for patient contact they are both still in a building with lots of people and sometimes close contact is unavoidable.
If you don’t wish to mix at Christmas you don’t have to and they certainly can’t make you.
As for developmental worries as long as you guys are interacting then I see no issue at all.

Dear God. Your brothers aren’t the boss of you, who do they think they are?! It’s a load of utter rubbish to suggest your baby is going to be developmentally delayed, he’s a baby!!!

They sound like a couple of bossy buggers who need to be taken down a peg so on those grounds I’d tell em to bugger off bubble w each other.

You shouldn’t have them tho. Three households mixing, and both they and your DP are potential big spreaders becos of jobs.

Developmentally delayed from a couple of missed visits from a couple of uncles. Really??!!! What a load of rubbish. Besides it being rubbish it is also very unfair of them to use that threat against you.

To be honest I wouldn’t be worried about the individual covid risk of them visits (eg risk to you/baby). I’d be more worried about generally encouraging people to move about uneccissarily.

How strange. I’m a dr and none of us are having usual social interactions and haven’t for months. I haven’t seen my mother since March. They’re very much outliers. I don’t know a single dr behaving like this and you seem to be related to two. It’s very odd.

I’m interested though as we’ve had threads for months in which many teachers have said they are at greater risk than NHS staff. I suppose your husband follows a similar routine to us - clothes worn at work are never worn home, shoes never come into the house, he showers before holding the baby etc.

As a doctor myself, I wouldn't be seeing any family as I wouldn't want to put anyone at risk. My parents are no longer with us, but we have told the in laws we won't be seeing them - We're in Wales anyway, which is the equivalent of tier 4, But I wouldn't put it past my MIL to try and have all the children and grandchildren round on Boxing Day

I wouldn't fancy it. Tell them to bugger off and buy their own turkey - which I suspect is what this is all about!
I'd be prepared to take a chance of the 3 month baby failing its A-levels!

I think your brothers are talking nonsense. A baby that age isn’t going to be developmentally delayed by missing out on Christmas Day with extended family.

FWIW, I agree that keeping separate this Christmas is sensible.

DH is a hospital doctor, he gets PPE and Covid tests twice a week, plus we have primary school age DC.
We’re going to be having Christmas all by ourselves because we don’t want to take the chance of inadvertently infecting our extended family.
The most we’ll be doing with them is a socially distant walk outside.

Your child is more likely to become infected from your husband working in a secondary school with no PPE and mixing with hundreds of students, than from a doctor who wears full PPE in his role. I think you’re over-reacting.

I don’t know where you all live but here in Wales that’s not permitted.
And to pp who said that NHS staff are all regularly tested - that’s not the case here.
Re: PPE. Most NHS staff wear a plastic apron, blue surgical mask (not fitted) and a pair of gloves. If that makes you feel that staff are well protected then your viewpoint is very difficult to mine.
OP - stick to what you feel comfortable with and don’t let them push you into a decision that you’re not happy with. There are plenty of places offering take away Christmas lunches if cooking is an issue for them