So angry.

[Frostythesnowman29]

Probably be flamed and told to my mind my own business but..

A child in DS’s class and her mother and younger sibling have had covid. DS and his class didn’t have to isolate. I believe that the mum and younger brother got it first and the child got it whilst in isolation so hadn’t been in school for a while. This sounds like they did the right thing...(she put this all over fb so that’s how I know).

However, the women’s partner went to work the whole time. He works with my partnerI never give it a thought at first tbh but I brought up that they had been in ill and assumed the dad had been off work but no partner had in fact been working with him. Partner said he’s the type that would never miss work or lose money. I totally get that not working and losing money is absolutely shite at the minute but surely it’s everyone’s duty to do their bit?!

I can’t help think they could have spread it around. My anxiety is telling me that he could have passed it onto partner and he hasn’t shown symptoms yet (if it all). He does work with him very closely but still in the same workplace indoors.

Aibu? It’s done now I guess. Said child was back at school late last week. So I assume their isolation period is up?? But according to other half (who is the shift manager of said guy) that he has not had any time off.

@dontdisturbmenow but he’d still have to isolate though, as I’m assuming he’d come into contact with his wife at some point.
Rules are pretty clear, if you have been in close contact with someone with Covid within 48 hours, you isolate.
They can’t sack you for isolating, it’s law. The wife should have given his name to test and trace and they would have contacted him and told him to isolate. If she didn’t, she is also breaking the law.

@LuaDipa it didn’t come to light until the family were over the virus. Wonder why? 😫

At my work we were basically told not to get tested if we get symptoms because a positive test would mean that we couldn't come into work. We only get SSP and could well end up "punished" with less/inconvenient shifts for being off sick. We were really short staffed so not being able to come in would screw everyone else over. All of this means people at my work are way less likely to isolate for symptoms or contact with a positive case. We were all quite relieved when we were put into tier 3 and had to close. Being on 80% furlough is better than being scared to follow the guidance/law and only getting SSP if you have the bravery to do the right thing.

A lot of workplaces don't take covid seriously. And I know that people will say that those workplaces need reporting but what happens when you report, nothing is done and then your boss suspects that you were the one who reported? People have bills to pay and families to feed. It's a disgrace but it's the reality unfortunately.

I think this is a bit like getting and remaining annoyed at someone who does 100mph along the motorway. Unless you're going to report people, you just have to accept that some people break rules and put others at risk. Yes, it's annoying, but staying 'So angry' with them is totally futile. You'd do better to learn how to not stay angry at things you can't control, and teach that to your kids. Letting go is a very valuable skill and will help prevent them wasting their lives on things that they can't change.

The very people who are being shafted by bastard employers like this one are not going to report them because they're terrified of losing their jobs and being unable to feed their families.
Yes, he should have isolated
Yes, the firm should be reported and prosecuted for breaking the law
No, it's not his fault.

Dob them in to the rozzers, he needs a big fine for his stupidity

Are you 100% sure he wasn't isolating himself within the house/with the family?

Yes because he was at work the whole time. I didn’t really know they had been ill. None of my business really but she put something on fb when they were over it.

It then came in convo with other half. I told him oh that family have covid. Assuming that her partner had not been in. But he was in the whole time! By that point they were better anyway. But he was definitely in (as mentioned above partner is shift manager). Their oldest child is in DS’s class. I can only assume the class did not have to isolate as she got symptoms over 48 hours after being in school last.

The workplace they work in will be in a far worse situation if there’s an outbreak. 😭

There is doing your bit for the country and then there is doing your bit for your family. I would take family over country and work colleagues every time and I'm not the only one.

2 weeks off work (or however long it is now) to self isolate is just not doable for some people.

Also you never really know what people's financial situation is really about. They might have a nice car and nice house and nice things and clothes but they could use charity shops, have a car on finance and rent blah blah blah.

I don't know many people who can go without their wages for 2 weeks (and if they can get sick pay its only 90 odd, not enough to cover rent)

I definitely get why you're angry though, but schools aren't taking covid 19 seriously either (no fault of their own, practicality trumps perfect virus eradicating) and will let kids in with symptoms as long as its not the big 3.

Yes he should have stayed off

I know many people simply can’t not afford to stay off

And some are very blasé about covid

I prefer to think those who continue to work when they shouldn’t do so because financially they have no choice

It’s really selfish and stupid.

We’ve got parents sending their kids into school when the parent has had a positive test result.

I feel like people breaching the isolation rules when positive result in family should face major fines. They obviously don’t think of others so hopefully will think about money