to not self isolate?

[bigbestbulldog]

Sisters wedding is in April after being postponed.

There will only be 15 of us there.

She has asked everyone to self isolate for 10 days before the wedding.

I have already take off 4 days to attend her mid week wedding in Wales when I live in Scotland. This will take up the remainder of my leave for the year. I have had a shitty year and don't intend to spend a chunk of leave next year self isolating indoors where I can't even leave the house (no garden).

She is in the vulnerable category.

I work in an office and not work from home but am very careful.

She told me if I don't it makes her very anxious and I am clearly not making her wedding and her safety a priority.

AIBU to not self isolate?

[Chloemol]

YANBU but I get her point as well if she is vulnerable, but it is selfish of her to expect you to give up most of your holiday. By then though vaccines will be around, the weather will be warmer and hopefully the virus reducing

That said who knows she may have to cancel.

[Sn0tnose]

She’s being really unrealistic. I get that she wants to feel safe and hug her family on her wedding day, but it’s not her who will need to make the sacrifices necessary to do that.

I think I’d decline on the basis that you just don’t have the annual leave spare to do what she’s asking and you don’t have the spare money to be able to take it as unpaid leave. I suspect that 2021 is going to be just as crap as 2020 so I’m not banking on anything being as we’ve planned it.

[Rollingpiglet]

There is so much that could change between now and then, it is really not worth making any firm plans at the moment. If she is vulnerable, is she not likely to be vaccinated by then? If so that would make things a lot less stressful.

[Dashel]

Could you fib and say you can’t get the time off work?

[IceCreamAndCandyfloss]

For me, either the couple want to exchange vows and make a lifelong commitment in which case they would have just done it and not delayed or they want the whole big day. I’d not take two weeks off work to attend a wedding. I think it’s very selfish to expect people to do that.

[plannit]

Get about 3 days before and isolate while awaiting result so not 10 days as that's ridiculous.

[Skipsurvey]

your annual leave is limited, you dont work from home. you are careful at work

[BlackberrySky]

If she's that worried about her safety she should postpone the wedding. For now though, you could just say hopefully you'll be able to do that but if course things could change at very short notice. Make sure they do!

[bigbestbulldog]

thank you everyone

the anxiety around her wedding isn't just about her health, its also about the health of friends and family. She is anxious that someone will get it at her wedding and be very ill.

From what it seems all the other guests can take time to come and isolate very easily. my parents and siblings all work from home, and so do his parents and siblings.

Theres not reason they have to get married they just really want to be married.

I would feel too guilty to lie.

Does anything change if you knew I was the maid of honour?

[3rdNamechange]

@Livelovebehappy

Can’t you just have a covid test a couple of days before the wedding to prove you are negative, then maybe just self isolate for the couple of days between the test and the wedding?

Two week incubation period. You could be negative on a Friday and positive on a Monday.

[bigbluebus]

Just isolate as much as you can (apart from work) and arrange to get tested twice prior to the wedding to minimise the risk. If the Government pulls their fingers out it will hopefully be easy to get tests by then and hopefully lots more people will have been vaccinated

[squeekums]

MOH or not, her wedding is not worth the risk of your job loss cos lets be realistic, if most told their boss 'yeah sorry i need to isolate for 2 weeks for a wedding', they would tell you to go jump or you would see a huge drop in hours upon your return

She is being ridiculous