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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To send DD back to nursery?

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OllietheOwl · 20/12/2020 23:20

DD’s nursery has been closed for 2 weeks due to a Covid case. Is it worth sending her back for the final week? She’s been bored at home and now our Christmas plans are cancelled, she’s likely to be spending the next 2 weeks indoors in our flat. At any other time I’d send her back like a shot, but the new strain etc is worrying. WWYD?
YABU - keep her off, why risk sending her back for just a few days
YANBU - she could do with the change of scenery and if the nursery is open, send her in!

We’re in London.

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stuffedforchristmas · 20/12/2020 23:21

No, I wouldn't, unless your mental health is at breaking point.

Xmassprout · 20/12/2020 23:27

Why can't you go outdoors?

I would probably keep her off for now. Our nursery have asked people not to send their children in this week unless they actually need to. They won't turn children away, but are trying to keep numbers low.

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OllietheOwl · 20/12/2020 23:31

I haven’t said I can’t go outdoors @Xmassprout. I just mean for 75% of her day she’ll be at home. We’ll go out every day if the weather permits. I’m just wondering whether the benefits of sending her in to be with her peers are greater than the risk of her catching the virus there. I was very pro her going back during the first lockdown. I guess it’s this new strain worry and the fact she’s already had 2 weeks off that’s making me wonder whether it’s worth sending her back before the Christmas break.

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EasterIssland · 20/12/2020 23:34

My son went back on Tuesday (not London). We have to work tho I’m on holidays already but I think it’s good for him the change of routine that we have at home and nursery. However , nursery comes at a price and it’s that you might have to isolate her again if another case arises. Also , if she hasn’t caught it this time ... it’s quite likely she’d not catch it next time neither

Fiftyand · 20/12/2020 23:36

How old is she? Are all of her friends going to be there?

Covidnomore · 20/12/2020 23:36

Are you vulnerable at all?

I would send her back even for a couple if days if you have no vulnerabilities.

It will be good for her and I think we all have a hard time ahead of us.

She may be stuck at home for months so that couple of days will just give you a little break.

Starseeking · 21/12/2020 00:28

Personally, I wouldn't, if it can be avoided.

Nurseries are trying to keep numbers low to minimise risk of infection, and in our case they're also trying to give staff who've worked throughout the pandemic a bit of a break.

We've taken our DC out for the full 2 weeks, as we're off work as well, so will spend some decent family time together.

grassisjeweled · 21/12/2020 02:08

Send her in. You'll all benefit.

MessAllOver · 21/12/2020 04:59

I'd send her in. Like pp above said, we may all be stuck at home for months. At least she'll get a change of scene and to see her little friends after being cooped up inside for a fortnight.

My DS is home from nursery for Christmas now and enjoying loafing around the house with his toys and watching too much TV. But he's only been off for 3 days and from today we're putting in place a routine of exercise/out of the house in the morning and then planned Christmas activities at home in the afternoon. I've already noticed a deterioration in his behaviour with less fresh air and exercise and more TV.

Also, if she goes to nursery, that will give you some time to plan things to do for the next few weeks.

lyinginthegutterstaringatstars · 21/12/2020 07:03

I would keep her home. If she drives you crazy just let her watch hey Dougee or similar.

Tumbleweed101 · 21/12/2020 07:06

Term time children will have finished now so numbers will be lower which means bubbles may have to mix within nurseries. Term time staff will be off too so they may have a different teacher in the room. Just points to keep in mind if she may be unsettled going back after two weeks off.

Personally I wouldn’t at this point because of the potential bubble mixing.

Cherrytreepuddle · 21/12/2020 07:17

I'd let her go in, you've been home for 2 weeks, you've got another 2 to go, a few days of seeing her friends in the middle will be a welcome break for you both

MrsFoggy82 · 21/12/2020 07:32

I'm not going to say YABU because I don't think you are, you can do whatever you choose to with your child!

Personally, I didn't send mine last week and won't be sending him this week, but that's because he's going through that awful "always sick" phase and I just didn't fancy a poorly household over xmas especially with a 7 month old too. If it was just the 'rona to worry about I probably wouldn't send him this week instead.

Very much up to you though, go with your gut, there is no right or wrong.

Backbee · 21/12/2020 07:37

I would, you've paid for it and it will be good for them to socialise and do group activities before the time off. I get that nurseries are worried about numbers, but you have paid for the sessions, if they don't want people to attend the should look at refunding.

randomsabreuse · 21/12/2020 07:41

Send them. There's a good risk that there's going to be school/nursery closures after Christmas - already announced in Scotland - so get the extra week of socialising while you can!

tappitytaptap · 21/12/2020 07:41

I hope these nurseries that are encouraging parents to keep their children at home are refunding them!

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OllietheOwl · 21/12/2020 08:11

Wow, a mixed bag of responses! Thanks for all the advice.
I’m on maternity leave with DH and DS (10 months). None of us are vunerable.
DD is 3 and a lot of her friends are leaving at Christmas to start preschools. She’s already missed her Christmas party (Friday!) and has been quite bored the last 2 weeks. We’ve done lots of walks and bike rides and probably way too much TV. That’s why I’m considering sending her in as there’s a good chance it will be walks, bike rides and TV for a lot of January!
I think I’ll ask her what she wants to do and speak to DH about it. I’ve been up since 4am with DS so the thought of a quiet house is appealing...

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Backbee · 21/12/2020 08:12

In that case OP I definitely would send her in tbh.

PreRaphaeliteMotherhood · 21/12/2020 08:16

I’d send her in.

I have no ‘need’ for DS to be at nursery as I’m on maternity leave with DD but I’d go mad if I couldn’t ship him off elsewhere for a few hours here and there!

midinthenight · 21/12/2020 08:34

I'd send her in. I wouldn't be surprised if we have a full lockdown in January with nurseries closed to everyone but key workers. If none of you are vulnerable she might as well enjoy it while she can.

Pl242 · 21/12/2020 09:00

No right or wrong answer. It’s a balance of considering pluses of interaction for your child/breather for you vs potential risk of another case and infection/need for isolation.

My youngest child is due at nursery tomorrow and Wednesday this week. Original plan was to send him in and do more age appropriate things with my eldest. But given those have all been cancelled keeping him home as I don’t think it’s worth it this week as the possibility of him requiring to isolate from going in this week will be the final nail in the Christmas holidays for us.

But if I were you and been isolating for 2 weeks I’d definitely be sending your child in.

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