To be utterly fed up

[Nicolamca]

Forgive me for the long post, but a rant is needed

This news about Christmas going down to one day is pure pants. My husband and I live in Sheffield, my family lives abroad and his parents live in Bath (at least a 3.5 hour drive away). The plan was for them to come up on the 23rd and leave on Boxing Day, but that plan has now been scuppered.

Christmas was really important to us this year because I'm pregnant with our first child and we were going to tell DH's parents at Christmas. So far no one else knows (I'm only 10 weeks) so it was going to be so lovely to have a few days with his parents being so excited.

The other reason that I'm gutted about Christmas is because my mum has been diagnosed with terminal cancer, and probably only has a few months left to live. I haven't seen her since July 2019 (because she lives abroad), and her diagnosis has just made a sh*t year even worse. A couple of nights ago she got rushed into hospital with a suspected stroke on top of everything else. She's only 70. I'm due to fly out to see her in February but doubt I'll be able to as I reckon flights will stopped in/out of the UK. After February I'll be getting towards being heavily pregnant and won't be able to fly, so I'm terrified I won't be able to see her before she dies.

I spent 4 months off sick this year with work related stress due to having a complete nervous breakdown, and just having a few days at Christmas with DH's parents (who are like family to me) was something to look forward to. Now I feel lonely and isolated, and just so angry and fed up. We've been in Tier 3 for months and haven't been able to see any family, and now don't know when we'll see family again.

Sorry for the long whinge. Just needed a rant. Being pregnant means I can't even have a bl**dy therapeutic glass of wine!

You should go and see your mum as soon as you can? Most airlines will take you until 37 weeks.

Could you go see her either now or immediately in the NY? You have a v good reason to travel.

You aren't whinging. This is a truly awful situation and no wonder you feel like you do. Its horrible for you and your family. I hope you manage to get out to see your mum soon xx

I think you should see your mum asap. Most airlines will allow you to fly up to around 36 weeks.

Your trip is what I would call essential travel.

for you. It's such a hard thing when someone is terminally ill and you have every right to feel fed up.

@Nicolamca Where does your mum live? Would it be hard to travel there with restrictions?

Thanks everyone, she lives in Cyprus and as it stands their cases are going up and they're looking like they'll be put back into lockdown. Each time we've made plans to go out, they've gone into lockdown which means that I can't see her. We couldn't go over Christmas because financially the flights are way too expensive, so February is our next booked flight (to be fair, we fly end of jan so it's not too far away). She's only been diagnosed 2 months ago so it's all happened very quickly. The additional complication is that we've always had a very tense relationship (she wasn't a particularly great mother to me as a child) and we now have a civil relationship but it just makes it that much more complicated to deal with the fact that soon she won't be here.