Is this rude?

[Martasalada]

Best friend is first time mum and will call me for a chat but then start talking to her toddler and doing other jobs in the meantime, even when her dh is looking after the child. Literally mid convo flow. She will comfort him or pat his head and start murmuring things whilst we are talking

I think that is just how it is but other things rankle eg we will be talking and then suddenly she will be like “omg dh the Christmas turkey, have we got it yet” and then to back to the convo.

It makes me want to check out of the convo equally or at least make a bit less effort 🤷‍♀️

Bugs the hell out of me. Almost on a par with people who constantly check thier phones when you are talking to them.

Yeah it's annoying OP and pretty rude. A one off is understandable but routinely is not cool.

I fucking hate it when people do this. Some people I know still do it with their 9 year olds.

It’s so rude!!!

I think these things too but don’t, well, say or do them because it’s insulting to the person I’m talking to. Maybe I should

I will let things slide a bit now because I cba atm.

It's rude,but maybe she's so comfortable with you and she's not realising what she's doing,she sounds
a busy lady.maybe tell her how you feel.

Well, it’s rude if you find it rude, I suppose. I’ll often video call a friend (particularly those who live abroad) and we’ll talk for an hour or longer but doing other things at the same time, and so I wouldn’t find it rude in that context.

Sometimes being on the phone seems to signal to a small child to start talking to you....can't be helped and you do have to shush them and murmur to them to go bother someone else 🤷‍♀️

3 way conversation with an adult Involved is pretty rude though

Its rude. My friend did this to me the other day, she actually started a pillow fight with her son and was cackling away for about 3 min before I just hung up on her

Yes rude

It's a bit bizarre.

Really depends on the context.

My best friend and I often spend hours on the phone whilst doing other stuff, her mum will pop in and we'll have a three way conversation (its now happened so often that her mum thinks we are never NOT talking to one another), I'll get 'hang on i need to hoover this bit' and ill ask her to hang on whilst i let out a dog or the dogs kick off cos the doors gone, or one of us has to tell the other to shuttup a minute whilst they type something.

But I think if like us, your best mate lives a 3 hour drive away and you both work from home, that sort of call is normal, and its a two way thing.

If either of us call the other for something important then we listen properly and don't interrupt.

If your friend can't do this then yeah, if its not a two way thing then it is rude.

Generally I thinks it’s rude, but perhaps she just feels v comfortable w you.

However if it were me I’d just get into the habit of saying to her - ‘bell me back when you’re able to chat’. She’ll soon get the message.