Just me, my daughter's, my SIL and DP.
Her family did nothing for her . Its complicated and theres backstory aplenty.
Her only sister is overseas and they had a fued to rival any soap opera. Fuelled by my mums poor mental health and vindictive nature- she is far from without redress.
That doesnt change the fact that i struggled for two years (if not more) with mums deteriorating health with zero support other than my DP. Not once did anyone ask after her or go to see her.
Now im being asked when the funeral is?? I just want to tell them all to fuck off. Furthermore, mum expressed during her down times that she didn't want them there.
Her neighbours looked out for her more than her family did. I would rather they were there.
Am i being petty?? Is that what mum would really have wanted.
I want a religeous ceremony, although mum was not religeous particularly. It feels wrong not to at least do this for her. But what for ?
Im so conflicted, it will im sure have ramifications but last week my mum was alive, where were the enquiries after her health??
There are cousins who might have been there under non covid circumstances but it would seem inappropriate to have them really but tgey did no wrong.