I have a fear of water from a bad experience as a child. Did swimming lessons as a child but never had the confidence to really try and eventually stopped lessons. Now around 20 years later I feel like I'm really missing out by not being able to swim. My kids are learning and I'd like to be able to go with them for a swim or for holidays. But my fear is still there and I don't know if it's just too late now. Fear comes from people (family) standing around when I couldn't get out the water and was struggling. Thought I was going to die. Happened twice, first time went down a slide where the water was too deep at the bottom, auntie pulled me out very casually after finishing a conversation at the poolside. Second time I slipped off the side and into the water, my grandad was only a few meters away but didn't try to help, eventually a stranger pulled me out. This damaged my trust that I'd be saved if I lose control so since then I've never been willing to try in case I get in difficulty again and no one helps me. How can I get over this and is it even possible to learn as an adult? Also suppose I feel a bit embarrassed about it at this age so don't want to try with lots of people around, sounds stupid I know.