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Am I really that petty?

22 replies

lmast · 19/12/2020 15:33

I'm aware on the surface this is all going to sound completely like I'm being petty and unreasonable. But.... if you look a little deeper I think I'm not.

Just playing a game (first mistake) with DH and DS11. I had to speak about a topic for a minute and DH & DS tick off key words from a list (they have different lists) If they didn't tick off something I'd said I can challenge it at the end. This happened obviously and DH didn't back me up at all (even though he knew I was right) DS was chosen to judge it by the game and refused my challenge. DH clearly was shocked by the look on his face but did absolutely nothing, not a word. Now the easy thing would of been to let it go but I can't believe DH didn't stick up for me and let DS say I was a liar! (he didn't use the word liar but what else was he calling me when he says I didn't say 2 of the words that I told him I had) I'm so taken aback at how little they both think of me. I'm the first to stick up for either one of them. Now DH switched it all off and I'm left feeling very upset and hurt. DH and DS have gone off as if nothing has happened. The game to me really didn't matter it's how they both treated me.

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Stompythedinosaur · 19/12/2020 15:35

It's not petty, I'd be upset by that too.

GoldfishParade · 19/12/2020 15:36

My dad was like this with my brother when we were growing up and still is today. Daddy's boy is never wrong! 🤨
YANBU

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/12/2020 15:36

That’s really nasty. You’re not being petty at all.

bobbiester · 19/12/2020 15:38

It's a game!!!! You are being super petty. Most fun family games involve a bit of rule bending and teasing.

TheMandalorian · 19/12/2020 15:40

Well I wouldnt be angsting but I would refuse to play the game or any other until your son stops cheating. Or instigate the card game cheat. Very satisfying to win against rubbish cheaters.
I think you need a bit more resilience though.

DillonPanthersTexas · 19/12/2020 15:44

Don't ever play Monopoly or Escape from Colditz

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/12/2020 16:37

@bobbiester

It's a game!!!! You are being super petty. Most fun family games involve a bit of rule bending and teasing.
What’s fun about being called a liar?
NotOfThisWorld · 19/12/2020 16:39

Maybe I'm petty too but that would bother me. If they both definitely knew that you had said it and deliberately called you a liar it would obviously be annoying. It doesn't have to even be a big deal DH could have just said 'oh come on DS we both heard her say X'

DillonPanthersTexas · 19/12/2020 17:07

What’s fun about being called a liar?

Depends

Am I really that petty?
bobbiester · 19/12/2020 20:56

What’s fun about being called a liar?

As the OP said - nobody used the word "liar".

All that happened is the son said he didn't remember / hear her saying a couple of words.

Who knows if the son was cheating or really didn't remember / hear the words? What's the big deal? It's a game!

Have you ever listened to Just a Minute? There are always good-natured arguments about whether someone did or didn't hesitate, deviate or repeat something. It would be really tedious if they pulled out instant replay recordings to arbitrate. Would take away half the fun.

Notanotheruser111 · 19/12/2020 21:23

Sometimes the umpire makes the wrong call and you’ve just got to accept that.

Brighterthansunflowers · 19/12/2020 21:29

I don’t think any of you should play any more games if it’s going to cause this much drama Confused

KrisAkabusi · 19/12/2020 21:39

You're right, you do sound petty and unreasonable. It's a game!

Figgyboa · 19/12/2020 22:43

It's a game, you're being petty!

SapphosRock · 19/12/2020 22:50

Sounds like you weren't tipsy enough to play a family game. Have another Baileys and try again Xmas Smile

Monsterjam · 19/12/2020 22:52

Are you not essentially calling your son a liar as well. If he didn’t hear the words then he is telling his truth.

ChristmasTreeFairy5000 · 19/12/2020 22:53

@DillonPanthersTexas

Don't ever play Monopoly or Escape from Colditz
This. Monopoly used to result in physical violence between my siblings and I as kids.

My mum has just bought it for my DC for Christmas!

Pipandmum · 19/12/2020 22:53

How old is your son? Young I'd let ot go. But if you all agreed he was the judge you have to abide by that.

M4J4 · 19/12/2020 22:55

YANBU. Why didn't you say anything?! Tell them tomorrow morning you were upset. Keeping silent just encourages this behaviour.

DillonPanthersTexas · 19/12/2020 23:18

This. Monopoly used to result in physical violence between my siblings and I as kids.

Grin

Sounds familiar. Myself and my siblings had an epic game of trivial pursuit where we were all on a knife edge with five cheeses each and my brother landed in the centre and got the question to win the game. My sister proceeded with "what measures 40 by 40 by 80 cubits", quick as shot my brother answers 'noahs ark', where my sister declines the answer, 'nope, it says here' The Ark' here. Cue board flipping mayhem with a battle cry of: 'Muuuuuuuuuuuuuuum'

Rosebel · 19/12/2020 23:21

It was a game as in supposed to be a bit of fun. Does it really matter?
I assume you don't play games much, not surprising if you get in a huff about something so minor.

marvelousmadmadammim · 19/12/2020 23:26

@DillonPanthersTexas

Don't ever play Monopoly or Escape from Colditz
Ah coldiz the game will forever go down in history as the one where rules are only introduced when they benefitted my Brother.
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