Unwanted Xmas presents

[chocolatesaltyxmaspudballs]

Back story: husband doesn't speak to his mum any more. Big fall out over religion and her controlling ways. So we haven't seen them all year. Despite all this he has sent Xmas cards and presents. We didn't expect to get anything back.

Yesterday a package arrived with cards and money for the kids, and then two jumpers wrapped up together but not labelled which we work out must be intended to be for me & husband.

His is ok, plain black, but is too big. He can give it to his son. But he's asked her many times not to buy him clothes as gifts.

Mine is hideous and also a size too big which I'm quite insulted by. It's her birthday in Jan so I've suggested to my husband that he regifts it to her then as it's exactly her size and style. Would it be unreasonable to do that?

Sorry no, I think it would be quite a spiteful thing to do and cause you more problems in the future. Get a refund and buy her something similar.

Can get a refund - no receipt. Plus I'm not going in shops so would have to make a special trip. Guess it's going in the bin then. What a waste of money.

Yes it would be unreasonable. It will just continue a nasty tit for tat. Don't stoop to her level. Just donate it to charity.

Sorry, I think it would be unreasonable. And I think it's rather unreasonable to be offended by her mistaking the size, given that you haven't seen her in a long time, so it's not as though she's likely to be 'commenting' on your appearance here! I would give it to charity, and forget about it. And next year perhaps don't sent presents (it's really up to your dh of course).

And don't bin it FGS
Charity shop it.

You sounds awful tbh

What shop is it from? You might be able to exchange it. Why not tell her it’s the wrong size and you’ll exchange it?

Of course it would be unreasonable.

If you can't use it give it to someone who can or charity shop it.

You sound spiteful and vindictive.

Don't put it in the bin, put it to charity so someone who could really do with a brand new jumper can get it.

You have sent her presents, she has sent you presents. All is good. So what if she got you something you don't like? I have a lovely MIL but she sometimes gets presents for me 'wrong', I say thankyou politely and put them to charity.

Why do you need to bin it, just donate it. And it would be very unreasonable to give it back to her she made a mistake but was still trying to do something nice
My mum asked if I was a size 16-18 for a present earlier this year, I'm a 12 🙈 it didnt offend me tho (much!)

I don't get why you're insulted. Just because you think it's hideous, doesn't mean that she thought it was hideous; you just have different tastes. I certainly wouldn't be offended by being bought clothes that are a size too big. One size is nothing. She estimated your size and got it slightly wrong. No big deal. It sounds as though you don't like her and are just looking for excuses to get angry.

I'd not be offended at the wrong size as you say you haven't seen them in a while.
Just leave it for charity or make something of it if you're into sewing and crafts.
They probably felt they should send something as they had received gifts from you.
If you weren't expecting anything back then it should be easy to just put it out of your mind and pretend they didn't send anything.

@chocolatesaltyxmaspudballs

Back story: husband doesn't speak to his mum any more. Big fall out over religion and her controlling ways. So we haven't seen them all year. Despite all this he has sent Xmas cards and presents. We didn't expect to get anything back.

Yesterday a package arrived with cards and money for the kids, and then two jumpers wrapped up together but not labelled which we work out must be intended to be for me & husband.

His is ok, plain black, but is too big. He can give it to his son. But he's asked her many times not to buy him clothes as gifts.

Mine is hideous and also a size too big which I'm quite insulted by. It's her birthday in Jan so I've suggested to my husband that he regifts it to her then as it's exactly her size and style. Would it be unreasonable to do that?

Re: it being 1 size too big... She hasn't seen you all year, how is she to know what size you are?

Re: re-gifting it... No. I think re-gifting is a good thing but would never, ever gift a present back to the person who bought it for me. To me that sends a "I don't want your present, have it back" message which is just rude.

Give it to a charity shop!

Charity shop.
Give her an Oxfam goat for her birthday.

It smacks of you looking to cause problems and bad feeling. You brought gifts, they brought gifts. If you really feel the need to be so rude and petty re-gifting, then maybe just avoid any presents in future.
They may not have brought your sizes/taste, but they did at least buy for you and gifts for the kids.
If you can't exchange or refund, just donate it to charity. There really is no need to be spiteful.

Just stick it in a bag and drop in to a charity shop when you next pass one. Don't be such a drama queen.

Don't send back- very passive agressive.
Don;t bin them either.

Charity shops welcome winter woollies at this time of year.

Ok I get the message. Charity shops all closed round here though.

What about the clothes bank you get at recycling centres? We have them at our local tip, as well as dotted around town (Sains car park, etc).

Then keep hold of it till they open?
Put on facebay for Free or similar?

Very unreasonable and makes you look not very nice and really childish.

Or sell on eBay and use the money you get to buy something you want.

You guys love the drama. No contact all year until Christmas and then you complain about their gifts. Do them a favor and bin the gifts and leave them alone

You are not very keen on any of his family, are you...

Act like an adult, hold onto them until charity shops open

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