AIBU to give her consequences?

[berryfull]

And if not, what should they be?

I’d really welcome some help.

My 9 year old son has suspected learning disabilities (we are part way through diagnosis ) and is dyspraxia. He is very impulsive and younger than his age in many ways.

Increasingly he has been stealing and lying. It’s beginning to become a habit. This week he has stolen twice at home (money and sweets) and three times at school (chocolate and other kids possessions) . He has also lied about it and refused to apologise.

I am so upset with him. But at a loss of what to do. We regularly reinforce that it’s wrong to steal, all the time. We already have consequences going on for other misbehaviour (fighting/not using toilet). I want some consequences that he’ll understand and be able to learn from. His ASN complicated things, as I’m never 100% sure what she understands. It needs to be simple. Perhaps at the level of a 5 year old?

How would you respond to your young child doing this? What consequences would you give? How would you teach them to resist temptation and not steal in a simple way?

Or am I being unreasonable to be angry?

Help!

Yes he needs consequences,

My own son has Asd/ adhd .. we did a thing about lies - someone on here told me many years ago. We are connected by thousands of strings every time you lie it breaks one of the strings which means we aren't as close - to repair strings you can only repair them by tellinh a trurh when it is really difficult.

Also with lies don't give opportunities. If you know he has taken something. I know you took ....

Stealing yes consequence what that is depends on child.

Replace tbings with his money , apology letter , remove something.

Sorry OP is your child a boy or a girl? Not that it matters.

Absolutely. It’s going to have to be something significant like removing devices or something. It will mean your life sucks for a bit.... you can do it!