OH sleeping so soundly?

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Laying in bed last night, abruptly woken by toddler crying closely followed by cat meowing at top volume to go outside.

OH is next to me in bed sleeping soundly, even when I bring toddler into the bed and she is rolling around the bed messing around, he doesn't stir.

Are men just immune to the noise, AIBU to wonder how they sleep through it all the time!?

Some people sleep more heavily than others. It's not a mystery.

Unless he's feigning sleep in order to get out of doing his part of the parenting...

Some people sleep more heavily than others. It's not a mystery.

Have you ever heard of a woman not waking when her baby cries? Unfortunately, we're hardwired to wake and respond.

My DH is on toddler duty while I'm on baby duty at the moment. Its amazing that now he has to, he can hear DD when she shouts in the night - for over 2 years he claimed he never heard her! *

• I used to wake him up and tell him it was his turn, don't think I let him off with that bullshit.

Are men just immune to the noise, AIBU to wonder how they sleep through it all the time!?

No they just pretend they can't hear it and that they're beyond exhausted so couldn't possibly wake up and do their bit.

Go and set his car alarm off in the night and see if that wakes him up.

They can hear ..they just choose to pretend to sleep so they don't have to do anything. Luckily my DH isn't like this and always helped when DD was small.

I do think it somewhat depends on whether their brain is primed to think the noise is something they need to act on. I used to be a ridiculously heavy sleeper but I'd wake instantly when one of the babies was crying.

I’m a really light sleeper, if I go on holiday I struggle to get used to new background noises at night. Small noises wake me, but I sleep walk a lot, when I’m sleep walking noises etc don’t wake me up.

My partner is a very heavy sleeper, he goes to bed before me, I used to get ready for bed really quietly and not turn the light on. Now its turn the lights on, don’t worry about opening draws etc as I know it won’t wake him up. Once hes asleep hes gone, he doesn’t even move. In the morning I can blow dry my hair and he sleeps straight through it.

The only things that wake him up are touch or actually shouting his name. He went to boarding school from the age of eight, his smallest dorm had 7 other boys. Boarders can sleep through anything.