To be annoyed child’s dad has spread his germs.

[Christmas41]

Last week DS 10 seen his dad. First time in a while. He doesn’t see much of him. Only a handful of times in the last year. Even before covid he was barely seeing him. It was only for a couple hours.

A day or two later DS comes down congestion, mild fever and cough. So of course off we go to covid test. I let his dad know that this was the case.

^his dad then proceeded to tell me that he had similar symptoms the week before. He did the responsible thing and got a test which is good and tested negative so on paper he was fine to see DS. But whatever he had was passed onto DS. DS then needed a covid test (which was negative). The test was horrific. DS has additional needs too.

Of course, his dad tested negative and was in his rights to see DS but I find it laughable that he hadn’t seen him in weeks and chose to DS on a weekend he was ILL!!!

It’s resulted in DS needing a test, both my dc missing time off school after and us work after a pretty much full term at school. I know they could pick it up at school but in this case I do believe his dad gave it to him.

So now DS has probably passed it to me - I’m poorly with similar and also had a covid taste. Feels like a cold but I’ve lost me sense of smell and taste with a terrible sore throat. Oh has work up feeling a bit under the weather. Thankfully youngest dc is okay!

So yeah Merry Ill Christmas.

I’m grateful it’s not covid of course.

Its winter, colds are rife. Give him a break!

Colds spread in winter.

I assume you didn’t send him back to school when he had a negative test? I assume your going to completely isolate until the cold has passed?

When you have a cold do you stay away from your children?

It's a cold! They're everywhere at this time of of year. It sucks but it happens.

I assume you didn’t send him back to school when he had a negative test? I assume your going to completely isolate until the cold has passed?

Yes I hope you're not seeing anyone whilst you have a cold. No school runs, no popping to the shops Etc

Germs are an inevitable part of life, I think people are starting to forget this

Difference is DS has additional needs, covid tests or any kind of tests are awful and his dad knows that every time he gets a cold it goes to his chest and he gets really ill. Just laughable that he hadn’t seen him in several weeks (he only lives 5 mins away) yet chose to see him when he was ill 🤣

Nope I’m not seeing anyone actually! Don’t want to spread my germs around to people just before Christmas!

Sorry you’re feeling poorly.
I’d be annoyed about this, particularly when you’re the one dealing with the consequences of it.
I’ve rarely passed on a cold to my dc though I’ve caught plenty from them. Good cough/sneeze hygiene and hand washing are important and I get very impatient with people who are sloppy about these things. Particularly when they don’t have the trouble of dealing with the sick dc.

Obviously we’re in the unreasonable minority though OP!

If we all stayed away from people every time we had a cold, the country would grind to a halt! If DS couldn't tolerate the test and you don't have to be anywhere as you say you are seeing no one; why bother taking him for one? You should have just kept him at home for 14 days. Clearly you dislike him and wanted to have a pop at him.

@thelegohooverer like all virus', the common cold is infectious prior to being symptomatic, and carriers can remain unsymptomatic and still pass it on, so chances are you could have given said colds to your children but having had more of them you trigger less of a response so don't become unwell. Don't think for one second children only get colds from neglectful parents!

There is no way you know where this cold came from and if if your ex nolonger had symptoms then it’s very unlikely he was the source of infection.