Neighbour slagging me off

[Hellishneighbour78]

This afternoon, I was getting my toddler up from her nap and heard my dog barking outside (we live abroad and many dogs outside for part of the day at least, very different to uk but she always wants to be outside)
I went out onto the terrace and heard my next door but one neighbour bitching about my dog, how her barking woke him up (at 3pm in the afternoon..) and how with my daughter etc, it’s like a zoo and very noisy!
I don’t see it as being like this at all, my Dd is a normal toddler who loves to play in the garden.
He’s always been nice in the past, but they have no kids and live on a cul de sac with lots of dogs, kids etc.
I just felt really upset hearing him say it all..and then pissed off. Him and his sister (lives next door to us) are literally the noisiest on the street for shouting etc. He often plays loud and shit music from 9-9 on a weekend really loudly and we’ve never once complained, but he complains about normal family life.
Aibu to feel really pissed off at hearing this?

Don't give it a second thought, some people are just miserable. My neighbour hasn't spoken to me for 7yrs because she was pissed off that I didnt go along with her suggestion of not letting my kids in our garden to play between 4-8 in the summer so she could enjoy cocktails & dinner in peace. She was also pissed off that they rode their bikes on MY driveway. Every morning she stands at her kitchen window & gives us evil's when we leave the house, every morning I smile & wave.

@Maskedcrusader He’s been so pleasant before, the music thing has pissed us ohh but we’ve never said anything.
I think he may work from home and it’s a quiet street as others out to work, but she’s just a normal toddler enjoying things..god help him if we had three kids or whatever. It’s wound me up!

He's probably just had a bad day, I wouldn't let it bother you, tensions are running high at the moment with the whole Covid malarkey. I think everyone has days when things that wouldn't usually bother them do - you just happened to over-hear an out of character rant.
I'm sure I have.
Let it go - no point in falling out over a one off x

You say she’s just a “normal toddler enjoying things”, but chances are your toddler is noisy (and you’ll be used to it so you won’t notice) and disturbing him, and then if your dog is out there all the time too as you imply it must be a nightmare for him, especially if he’s working at home.

@emilyfrost Not sure if he is working from home as doesn’t appear to go much but lie on the hammock, drink and blast loud tunes some weekends.
I’m with a 2.6 year old stuck in during the pandemic for 12 hours per day..my sanity needs her in the garden and she adores it too. She’s playing by herself, on the swing, yes running around and laughing etc,,there’s no way in stopping that.

It's hardly a "nightmare for him" - normal daytime toddler sounds.

If I ever get so miserable that the sound of a toddler playing makes me a grumpy bastard someone please take me out and shoot me.

That said, I think this year is making folk react in ways they wouldn't normally. I'd put it down to a bad day he was having and try not to let it worry me too much.

*Do

What do you do if you have children and a dog though on a cul de sac of similar people? All lock ourselves indoors and tell the children to sit quietly..not possible!
We had many Yeats with no kids and heard kids on the street all the time..didn’t make me pissed off, it isn’t the kind of place where you can complain about families really!

It’s totally reasonable for him to have a rant about a noise that is annoying him, he didn’t mean for you to overhear. My neighbours work odd hours and I complain sometimes about hearing their cars pulling in/ out of their drive in early hours of the morning even though I know they’re not being unreasonable and it’s just normal street noise. I would never complain to the actual neighbours it expect them not to use their cars at night but equally if I’m grumpy from being awoken it’s okay for me to have a grumble to a friend about it.

Your neighbour would be unreasonable if he was making a big deal of complaining to you but he’s perfectly entitled to have a frustrated conversation with a friend about it in his own home, I doubt he thought you’d hear. If you don’t have kids or pets then toddlers shouting and dogs barking can be annoying regardless of whether it is excessive or not and sometimes just having a grumble and venting about minor annoyances you know you can’t change can be cathartic.

[quote Hellishneighbour78]@emilyfrost Not sure if he is working from home as doesn’t appear to go much but lie on the hammock, drink and blast loud tunes some weekends.
I’m with a 2.6 year old stuck in during the pandemic for 12 hours per day..my sanity needs her in the garden and she adores it too. She’s playing by herself, on the swing, yes running around and laughing etc,,there’s no way in stopping that.[/quote]
Nobody is asking you to stop that.

I’m saying that what you think is “normal toddler noise” is most likely extremely loud/giggly/shouty and not acceptable to everyone else.

She can taught to be outside and be considerate of others.

@emilyfrost Yes, she is taught that. Not particularly loud I’d say, even though yes, I’m used to it.
It’s pretty hard and quite sad I think to attempt to curtail a two and a half year olds joy tbh!

You have a dog outside a lot of the time and a noisy child.

These things are the norm to you, and of course you seem feel no one should feel otherwise.

But others don't share your views!

So you may be being unreasonable.

@Daphnise She’s not a noisy child, just an average toddler I’d say. Where we are dogs are outside mainly and many on our cul de sac and many kids playing out..we’ve been here for 10 years, be just arrived..and plays very bad techno for up to 12 hours a day on high volume when pissed or working on his house..or whatever he does..is that ok

@Daphnise I can see how the dog could be annoying and I’m working really hard on that (she’s more protective since Dd came along, hence the barking and protection of the house) I thought the way he was die along though wasn’t nice and I was pretty surprised

The toddler wouldn't annoy me, the dog would. I have a neighbour who puts his dog in his garden for a couple of hours. Usually 8 to 10 p.m. I can't get my DD to sleep because of the parking. I asked him to take the dog in. He agreed. He's back out again now. That dog makes my life pretty miserable.

Barking

Toddler noise is fair enough (assuming not high pitched screaming!). Barking dog is going to annoy lots of people. 12 hours of techno also not OK!

Although you won’t because it’s playing on your mind and I’d feel the same, it’s worth just ignoring it and carrying on with your life exactly the same. Continue to be friendly as neighbours, it sounds like perfectly normal day time noise.
I however am currently fuming as I’ve just got into bed for an early night and my neighbour is hammering shit into our adjoining bedroom wall I have no problem with it really, they aren’t problematic neighbours, a couple of noisy parties a year but we do the same, nothing too extreme, always let neighbours know etc. I’m just annoyed as I’m tired and just want to read my book and doze off and there they are, hammering away

Toddler noise is awkward to hear if your not used to it. Dog barking too.

However if his pleasant and plays music I wouldn’t give it a second thought, probably just a off day for him and he was moaning like everyone moans now and again

Well he's not trying to curtail your toddler is he? He's not getting up a petition or knocking on your door to complain. He finds your family noise annoying, and grumbled about it to his sister. He didn't mean for you to overhear. Haven't you ever grumbled about a neighbour?