Top 3 Christmas irritations / CF behaviour from others

[WhatKatyDidNxt]

We all know Christmas like a lot of occasions, brings out CF behaviour massively. So let’s ventilate our top 3 Christmas CF moves.

I’m going with:

1. people who want Christmas bought to them -literally. My mum has made it clear she would love me to finish work (often 830pm on Christmas Eve), drive 300 miles and then make Christmas dinner with the food l bought with me the following day. I’m not convinced by this plan and decline. It’s not as if she has been in Christmas servitude for decades and l never contribute anything. But lm not doing everything. More than happy to host when it’s my turn and l have in the past
2. people who want every Christmas off work, l do shift work and some people want to magically not work or do shifts at Christmas. It doesn’t matter if you were ill last year, on maternity, in the Maldives etc then you weren’t at work. Someone else isn’t going to do your turn of working. You're being selfish and not a team player
3. people with no Christmas ideas and want you to all the thinking. Let’s be realistic some people are so hard to buy for, lm going to struggle to think of an idea for my gift. Never mind yours!

There are runners up, who can forget the people who land on your doorstep for Christmas, don’t contribute anything. Then eat / drink you out of house and home for 2 weeks, whilst demanding to be entertained (this never happens of my watch but happens to others). Or the people who just point blank refuse to do ANYTHING for Christmas and are total passengers

Not sure where to start with this! Hmm how about people who say they “don’t mind” when asked anything about Christmas, then later on moan re presents, food etc. Secondly people who try to duck doing their fair shame at home and work (yeah looking at those people who try to swerve working Christmas every year despite it being a 24/7 shift type job). Lastly the people who spend thousands on Christmas and then plead poverty for months afterwards. Don’t spend it if you don’t have it

@WhatKatyDidNxt is your mum elderly and / or physically incapacitated or is it just pure CF?

@EL8888 no physical health issues and not elderly

In normal years the "just our little family" brigade. Yes it's your home/time/whatever and no need to include someone who has actually hurt or abused you but if you're making grand gestures about the importance of the season then, er, make some room at the inn.

My Mum when I was still in contact used to do that. Expect me to buy the food, cook the food, bring it round to hers and serve it up. Then she would try and take credit for the food (when my gran was there) . I would then be expected to do the dishes and leave her all the leftovers
She would use this as an excuse for a row if I challenged her.
When it wasn't her turn she would try and either create a drama to make it all about her, or be constantly on the phone to try and take the focus away from my dad.

She also expected each sister to buy the other sisters gifts from her and then she would take credit. When she did buy gifts they were always something that the person receiving absolutely hated or had no use for.

Finally she expected her expensive list to be fulfilled but would we receive thanks - would we fuck. Each gift she had specifically asked for would be unwrapped, looked at with disdain and set aside. However, if we even frowned at a gift she had given the rows would go on for weeks

When everything is one sided. There are four of us. Yet I’m the only one to look after our parents. They just assume that I will do it it all.

1. my brother, Christmas always at my mum and I'm on my feet for 2 days to prepare, serve the food and clean afterwards. And he's there sat on his a* bossing me around. And after eating, he takes up all the sofa for a nap !!!

2. My mum who is really good at requesting presents, but never makes the effort to think about something I'd like. I got make-up and nails set while I'm at al into this thing. Maybe the daughter she would like to have had is?

3. People who brag about the amount of present they bought to each others. Where is Christmas spirit about 1) bragging 2) spending thousands

We have someone who has a bit of a sob story and invites herself round every year, is an absolute scruff and makes such a mess just eating her meal and never offers to so much and take plates into the kitchen. Thankfully covid this year has been an excellent excuse to not have her round.

Why can't DM buy the food herself??

People (or one person) in my team expecting first dibs on annual leave because they have Children. Sorry, you all let me know what you would like and I'll do my best to accommodate everyone's requests. This is their first Christmas in my team and she was not happy that she didn't automatically get the whole of Christmas off because she has kids. I would take that into consideration but her kids are 13 and 15. Another colleague has elderly parents to see (involving travelling) so why do her needs get trumped by someone with teenagers? Another colleague lives alone but wants to go to her Sisters for a day and night, so she needs some time off. I wouldn't mind but we're all working from home anyway, she won't have to be more than 6 feet away from them anyway.

People who always complain it's too early to watch Christmas films/ decorate/ listen to Christmas music but then say it 'doesn't feel like Christmas'. Well yea, it won't feel like Christmas if you don't let yourself get a bit excited about it.

I am totally unreasonable here but my parents who cook the blandest food you’ve ever eaten and put no thought into making a tasty Christmas dinner and also refuse my help in doing anything.
I can’t wait until I can start cooking Christmas dinner in my own house without offending them!

People who talk over the programmes you’ve been waiting to watch. I now record Call the midwife Christmas special to watch in peace on my own.

People who turn up early on Christmas Day. It’s just rude and we all then have to rush around looking after them when we’ve not finished getting ready ourselves.

Christmas cards with a family photo on- just no.
Stunts people pull to get time off over Christmas where some people are needed at work, instead of accepting say alternate years.
People buying enough food for a fortnight.

@Britishmanagersclub not sure if the food question was directed at me? She doesn’t like food shopping around Christmas apparently. I suggested click and collect or delivery but she doesn’t want to try that either

People who insist on the "traditional Christmas" regardless of the tastes of any one else and who is providing it. If you're so desperate for turkey a d Xmas pudding either buy it yourself or go to someone's house who likes it. Don't invite yourself over and then whinge that your exclusive tastes aren't being catered to when there's plenty to eat (including four desserts made from scratch including cakes, creme brulle and ice cream which you've previously enjoyed)

Slightly lighter hearted but my Dad is being very possessive about Christmas. I keep offering to do things and cook things and he's having none of it! He'll do it himself apparently! And I want to do some cooking, especially for boxing day! It's not fair! I'm going to do it by stealth anyway