Can teens meet with boyfriends indoors?

[FrangipaneForMePlease]

I thought they couldn't, in fact I know the rules of tier 2 and 3 definitely mean they can't. But most of my friends talk about their teens meeting up with boyfriends and girlfriends inside each other's houses as if it's not even a thing.

AIBU to think that, awful as it must be, teenagers really can't meet up inside at the moment? Or am I just not getting something? DD, 15, is very accepting of things but her very new thing with first boyfriend fizzled partly because she couldn't see him during lockdown.

You’ve answered your own question haven’t you?!

We're now in 3 and definitely can't.

DC1 (18) and his gf of 18 months are still going strong with zoom, calling etc. I'm quite impressed!

No they can’t. But lots of people justify it to themselves by saying “oh but they’re together all the time at school so it doesn’t matter if they see each other outside school as well”. Which obviously doesn’t make sense.

Purpler-I think so. I'm just a bit 😳that it was mentioned so casually. There is so much casual rule breaking going on. A friend has posted pictures of meeting up with relatives, clearly indoors, not in a restaurant,three different households. Maybe bending rules and imagining if they don't then also get together at Christmas it'll be okay?

I just think loads of people are pretty much justifying things by the "rules are for other people" rule-in other words, as long as others stick to the rules my behaviour won't matter. I'm going through a wave of finding that very difficult.

There are indeed lots of people casually breaking the rules. Which is probably why things are in a bit of a mess!

Only you can decide what you’re happy with in terms of your and your family’s behaviour.

@FrangipaneForMePlease

I just think loads of people are pretty much justifying things by the "rules are for other people" rule-in other words, as long as others stick to the rules my behaviour won't matter. I'm going through a wave of finding that very difficult.

Totally agree and empathises.

It’s not really fair is it?!

I will revert to that when this wave of "I can't believe it" itis has passed! I really can only be responsible for my own and, to a lesser extent, my family's behaviour.