Paranoid he will dump me for working part time aibu ?

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I work 16 hours a week.
I had suffered quite badly with anxiety and depression and found it hard to go out alone 2 years ago.
I'm a lot better now and getting my life back together.
I work 16 hours and claim ESA benefit until I feel strong enough to do more hours.(which will be this year )
I'm in a new relationship and he works for DWP
I haven't got into details about anything,he knows I work part time and that's all I want him to know for now.
I'm scared he will access my records and see this and end it.
Aibu here or is he not allowed to do that ?

If he accessed your records then he could and should be fired.

He isn't allowed and if he does you need to take it as far as you can.

Even if he did access your records (which he shouldn’t) why would he dump you? What’s to be ashamed of?

If he did that it’d be gross misconduct at work, and YOU’d dump HIM!

If he did that you would surely not want to be with him anyway!

You don’t think much of yourself, do you?

You’re enough, just the way you are.

He’s absolutely not allowed to do that and any role I’ve had where you can access peoples records it would be a firing offence to look up people you know for shits and giggles.

Anyway, working part time because of mental health issues is perfectly reasonable! Anyone who would dump you for that isn’t worth your precious time or energy

If he has an issue with it, he’s not right for you

I briefly dated someone who kept on about how I could make so much more of my career. I dumped him. If I wanted a career coach, I’d have got one.

He is absolutely not allowed to do that. I think it's a sackable offence

1. hes not allowed
2. you have nothing to be ashamed of
3. if he dumps you he would be doing you a favour

He isn't allowed to access your records unless he is your case handler I believe. If he's found doing it, and he will be because they monitor that very closely, he'll have to have a good reason for going in there.

Not allowed to access it. If by chance he was your case handler he'd have to declare as personal interest and it'd be given to someone else. My sister worked at the CSA and was given our Uncle's file; someone else dealt with it.

Why would he dump you, even if he saw you got benefits?

If you think he is this flawed, why are you dating him?

I know I'm probably being paranoid just one guy 4 years ago worked for the council as a housing officer.
I don't know how he did it as it wasn't the same council i live in but he looked at my records and seen my personal details (I claimed HB) he ended up dumping me.
Since then I've been paranoid

There is so much to unpick here

1. Wouldn't it be a normal, conversational question when getting to know someone, to say "Oh, how come you only work 16 hours?" in a chatty, conversational sort of a way. You are getting to know one another - that is quite an unusual thing (unless you have small children you are looking after), so, when it comes up in conversation are you going to start keeping things from him ?
2. No, he would not be allowed to look anyone up on the system for private information gain and he could be disciplined for that
3. Do you want to go out with someone who would break the trust that goes with that sort of role anyway ?
4. Why on earth do you think he would dump you for that?
5. If her were a person that would treat a person differently because they had suffered ill-health, then would you want to go out with him anyway ?

Usually the computer does random checks on DWP staff looking up people, so he would then have to justify his reason for accessing and get it signed off by someone senior to him.

You could write to the DWP for your peace of mind and without mentioning his name, explain you are in a relationship with an employee and want your records protected. It means every single time anyone attempts to access your records it will flag up and need to be signed off but also that only a specific team will be able to see the information held.