I’m HATING being a mum

[Kettler]

Two boys, a 6yr old who doesn’t listen/care & the youngest has just turned 2. Cried literally all day today (the 2yr old) & tantrum after tantrum after tantrum. 6 yr old comes home from school with an attitude, sulks, then goes manic towards bedtime. I’m hating it. I don’t get any joy out of parenting at the moment, it’s shit, soul-destroying work & fucking relentless. I love my boys of course I do but there are days & times I just want to run out the front door and keep going.

I feel like I’ve had a previous life & motherhood is such a lonely job, the buck stops with you all the time & I hate the tantrums & the screaming that just goes on and on and on.

I thought I’d be ok but I’m not. I feel like shit mum because I don’t enjoy my kids

I don't have any advice but didn't want to read and not reply. Everyone has days, weeks, maybe even years like this I think. You aren't a shit mum and it doesn't mean you will hate it forever. Not that any of that makes the right now easier of course so sending you lots of strength: deep breaths, be kind to yourself, and remind yourself this too will pass. Xxx

Sorry. It really is absolute shit sometimes. The phrase "the days are long but the years are short" really does sum it up for me.

It won't last, this stage. That doesn't mean you can't have days or weeks where you throw your hands up in despair.

So what can you do to make your life easier? is it a possibility? can you just fuck it all off and make a blanket fort and eat biscuits? Sometimes going for a completely out of the ordinary day throws my kids off completely and it's just enough to press the reset button.

Nothing shit about not enjoying being around your children 24/7. I would have shot myself by now. Hire some quality childcare and find yourself a job you like, and actually enjoy the time you spend with them?

Handhold OP, I have two boys, and.I can remember how tough it is, but honestly the time flies by so quickly. Believe me when I say before you know it they will be at High School. Don’t feel guilty for not enjoying every day, we are all human and it is really hard raising children. This phrase will pass, you are doing your absolute best.

I think what you’ve described are the realities of parenting, rather than the absolute shite you see on social media. I totally see where you are coming from. When my son was three I cried on a regular basis because he was such hard work. I thought he hated me.

All I can say is hang in there, you’re doing a great job and it will get easier. I applaud your honesty. 💐💐