To long for some time to myself now I've got a baby?

[Nicknamegoeshere]

Even if it's just to do something like have a relaxing bath or watch TV for half an hour?

My baby is almost seven months. I have an hour without her on me most evenings (when OH takes her for a walk and she sleeps) but apart from that she's with me 24/7. OH says I should "stop whinging."

AIBU?

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz We bedshare, she doesn't have her own sleeping space so she goes up when I do.

Don't spend your hour washing up and doing housework! Go for a bath!

@hammeringinmyhead I've considered that, but then there will just be a huge mess and a pile of washing up for me to do in the morning (with screaming baby who wants mummy!)

I have exclusively breastfed and done a fair amount of co-sleeping. However I agree that the 7pm nap is not a good idea. Could you get a bed rail, have husband do a nice long bath, massage and into Pyjamas then see if you can get her to go down herself for a few hours before you come up to bed? I don’t mind having a baby on me all evening for the first few months but by 7 months I would be climbing the walls.

It is hard with a baby, but at 7 months they should be sleeping for more than an hour at a time. Really most babies that age sleep 7 till 7 or wake up once or twice. Are they being woken by you die to being in the same bed? They should also nap for a few hours in the day, even if not for that long it's 3 or 4 separate hour long naps that you can relax in.
Whilst they are out on walk do something you want, you can do the clearing up together afterwards.
Yes it's hard but this sounds harder than it should be by this stage.
Maybe put baby in their own cot and own room - cosleeping is fine but it really doesn't sound like it's working for you.

YABU

Why is it your job? Your DH could do it after he gets back.

We bedshare, she doesn't have her own sleeping space so she goes up when I do.

At 7 months they need an earlier night than 10 pm, they will end up over tired with knock on effects on sleep habits. When over tired it's actually much more difficult for them to sleep through the night. Do you not have another bedroom where you can make space for the baby? Or just put a cot in your room for now and then baby can safely go to bed at a reasonable time.

Oh crikey no you are not being unreasonable!
I sort of co-sleep, 11 month old starts off in his cot and ends up in my bed by 10/11ish, I get a small bit of time in the eveninga then when he's not waking hourly. Sleep has massively improved recently though after the 9/10m regression so there is hope!
Are you going back to work after maternity? My little one started with a childminder at 8months. My school has already finished for the year so tomorrow him and big brother have a lovely day at the childminders and I get a whole day to myself!

Feeling that way is a fairly universal new mum experience.

However, at 7 months there is no need for a feed every hour. Which is to say, there is no biological need for that for a healthy baby. Maybe once a night but the vast majority of babies at that age are capable of sleeping through without a feed with a short period of adjustment.

So I would be thinking about achieving that. Unfortunately while bed-sharing is great for parents' sleep in the early months, when they get older it can really do a number as this phenomena of waking up every sleep cycle is a common one. Or, refusing to sleep without an adult in physical contact, so you can't get a shower when baby is asleep.

I'd seriously look into night weaning. Personally I never managed it without sleeping separately but others do, so it may be possible if you still want to sleep together. Long term though I think if you can't night wean while bed sharing it can become very overwhelming to carry on.

Your OH doesn’t sound very sympathetic or kind.

YANBU, OP. It’s so intense and tiring being with them all the time.

It gets a lot easier and more fun when (if?) they go to childcare and you get a break- even if your “break” is just returning to work. Before that the days can be LONG.

Quite a few women go back to work early, for this reason.

I agree with those of you that say it's probably a good idea for her not to sleep between 7 and 8pm so she's more tired earlier on in the evening. We don't have a spare room (I have two older boys thst live with me half of the time) but will consider trying a cot for a couple of hours before I go up.
I am returning to work after a year as financially I have no option - I am normally the main earner. Will be doing at least four full days a week.

The bedsharers and cosleepers always come on threads about sleep issues to suggest it as a fix-all to sleep problems but it’s really nuts that it can create issues such as the baby waking every hour. The problem is the baby can’t fall asleep by herself so every sleep cycle, wakes up and needs help to get back to sleep. She’s using you as a human dummy. You need to lengthen the last time she’s awake and have 3 hours or so at that age between last nap and bedtime.

Sorry @Findahouse21 my comment to you sounded really harsh, I didn’t mean the swearing was directed at you. Sorry, very classy reply!

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@hammeringinmyhead I've considered that, but then there will just be a huge mess and a pile of washing up for me to do in the morning (with screaming baby who wants mummy!)[/quote]
Can't your partner wash up after dinner before the walk? Or the next morning before work? You shouldn't be doing everything.

My partner works full time. I'm on mat leave for our 2 month old baby. He takes baby (I co sleep) before he starts work so I can rest and shower, then takes baby when he has breaks (wfh) and we split the evenings. Only way that's fair.