I’m the youngest of 4 siblings and definitely the scapegoat. This term was explained in my counselling sessions. I get blamed for everything. Today for example DM calls me and said to me to “behave” when I come for Xmas. I said to her of course I will and has she said the same to my other siblings or is this just a conversation with me? She said she doesn’t need to talk to them as they never fight. To be clear I get along with 2 of them but the eldest I do not as she bullies everyone. Both my other siblings fight with her constantly but DM conviently forgets this numerous times and just rembers what she wants. DH overheard her today and suprisingly took phone off me and reminded her of the times when he’s had to carry bags of the other siblings to the car when the eldest one has kicked off with them and they’ve had to leave. He never usually gets involved and just ignores any drama.
I’m fuming. I’ve tried many times to have a reasonable conversation with DM but she refuses to listen and talks over me. I absolutely think this woman is vile to me but lovely to everyone else. My kids were so excited to visit her I just feel so angry and want to cancel.