Will try and keep this brief.
My father split from my mother when my sister and I were little 3 & 1 - my mother met someone else, but that's a whole other story.
He has never been that close to either of us growing up, fortnightly outings but wasn't a close relationship by any stretch.
Since having my son 3 years ago I made a huge effort with him as I wanted my son to have a grandfather.
So I would have him over every other weekend for a Roast, he would go to the pub with DH, and occasionally come over for a takeaway and stay the night.
My dad's parents split when he was young and he has always been very bitter about it, his mother (my grandma) remarried a wonderful man shortly after and this man is my Grandad.
My wonderful Grandad who has been in my life since the start, has always looked after my sister and I and been a wonderful male role model. This year he was diagnosed with motor neurone disease and has gone from a 60 year old man who was scuba diving and running his own businesses to someone with no quality of life unable to talk or really walk that far - he also had bowel cancer in the last 5 years.
I have always known that my sister and I were in my grandad's will, along with our 2 cousins (daughters of one of my dad's brothers) and the 3 "sons" who were never actually my grandad's - inherited from my Grandma's earlier marriage.
I learnt in the summer from my mother that my dad (whilst waiting for my sister's baby to be born) was lay on her sofa, rubbed his hands together and was discussing the inheritance he is due to get from his late father and also his step-father my grandad.
My dad has always ridiculed my grandfather, and has said to anyone whom he got chance "he has no feelings for the man" "he is someone my mother married".
He then went on to tell my mum that he and the 2 other "sons" were disputing the will to take out the 4 granddaughters.
Since finding this out, I confronted him, and he admitted bold as brass this was the case and gave me a multitude of reasons, including;
- Grandchildren in his opinion should be left a lump sum, not a share of the estate
- There are things we don't know about
- He doesn't trust how we would spend it, in particular my younger sister who is 30!
- He wants to hold it for us should our marriages break down so he can bail us out
Since this, I have not seen him or spoke to him really. I am 16 weeks pregnant and my grandfather is dying.
I have been visiting my grandfather due to him being terminally ill and I am riddled with anxiety of seeing my dad - I am disgusted by him.
I feel he and the others are taking away his last wish, his will. My grandfather cannot talk and they are violating him.
I'm devastated at the situation and how money can tear families apart 