To not go round on Christmas day?

[Magicra84]

My mum is battling cancer. Stage 3. Her prognosis is good. The consultant is confident that they can shrink the tumour. She's undergoing chemotherapy and radiotherapy and so far hasn't had many symptoms thank goodness. She's been tired.

I work in a very busy place and see around 12 clients a day plus numerous colleagues. Although our hygiene practise at work is good, we are always passing each other documents and share offices and we can't guarantee clients personal hygiene with handwashing etc is good, although everyone coming in is asked to hand santise and wear face coverings.

So, my issue is with access to potential covid (or anything else) germs, I think it's best I don't see my mum on CD. I usually go round the whole day, but I think it's too risky, especially when her immune system will be so frail. She won't be on her own. We are, of course, upset but the risk seems too high for one day. So, aibu to not go round, or am I being daft?

I think you're being really sensible op and in your position I'd be doing the same. It's one year, her prognosis is good, stay away so you can have many more Christmases together.

You're not being daft, you're being thoughtful, however tough it is. You're putting her first...how can that be anything but good?
I hope your mum gets positive news soon and you can see her comfortably in the new year. Until then, it's zoom ( and maybe a special handwritten letter if that's your sort of thing)

Yanbu

If she was by herself and wanted you round that would be very hard

But if you did pass anything on you would feel so guilty and that, to be honest, would probably be worse (obviously worse for her health)

You're being daft if you DO go round!

Apart from a doorstep visit, I would keep away too. I told all of my family we would have the big get together in the summer. Best wishes to your mum, it sounds as though she is doing really well.

Thank you for your replies We plan on exchanging presents on the doorstep but in open air for a minute or so. It's sad but one year out of hopefully many if the treatment works, isn't so bad.