To refuse to accept deliveries for neighbour?

[Iwantcollarbones]

I’ve always been happy to accept deliveries for neighbours but this one I feel is spectacularly taking the piss.

I rent a flat next door to my house which I use for studying. Last month, a new tenant moved into the flat upstairs. The deliveries started to arrive a month before she moved in. She gets up to 6 deliveries a day. From what I can gather she works in a job that is based from home even when everyone else isn’t.

I’ve started to ignore the knocking of the main door (we share a hall) but it seems that she has put on her delivery notes to ring my bell if there isn’t any answer at hers. She’s not so much as said hello to me let alone asked if that’s ok.

I thought I’d look on her Instagram profile today (procrastination at its finest) and her last post was her skipping down the aisle of a plane yesterday. She’s so far received 5 deliveries and she’s not even in the bloody country.

It’s really disturbing my studying and I’m throughly pissed off at being allocated as her personal delivery bitch.

Wibu to simply refuse to accept any further deliveries for her?

Usually I see no problem in accepting deliveries from neighbours but she's really taking the mick! I'd just stop accepting them.

I think if its at that volume YANBU. I take deliveries regularly for my next door but one neighbour and she does the same for me because we have an agreement but its rarely more than two a week even now.

Multiple times a day and to the point where its interfering with your work is not reasonable. Have you got a contact number for her: can you text her and say you can't be responsible for this many deliveries and can she redirect?

I found the delivery guys soon stopped ringing when they realised that I wasn't accepting for neighbours. But you could try a note on the doorbell saying. 'Ring for (Your no) only. No other deliveries accepted.)
Why do you even need to ask if this is unreasonable!

Of course it's not unreasonable to refuse a delivery. I do it often when it's not convenient. All my deliveries are left in a safe place so I always get them but it wouldn't It bother me if neighbours refused mine.
Just say no. You don't have to say why.

Of course YANBU, just refuse them. Multiple deliveries per day is CFy - the odd delivery on occasion then yes but not daily and especially if she doesn’t even acknowledge you.

I never ever EVER accept peoples packages. I don't want them accepting mine either. I have a designated 'safe space' for them to be left (on my property,) and that's where mine go if I am not in.

I refuse to take responsibility for other peoples property and items, and have a notice on my front door saying 'I DO NOT ACCEPT NEIGHBOURS PACKAGES, PLEASE DO NOT KNOCK, UNLESS THE PACKAGE IS FOR THIS PROPERTY.'

My DH works shifts and is sometimes in bed in the mornings, and also, I work from home, and do not want to be bothered by people knocking my door to drop off packages, then having to keep the bloody thing in my house, be responsible for it, then have to wait for them to come get it, or go around to their house, (in the dark and the cold,) hope they are in, and wait for them to answer the door.

Also, covid19 is a good reason to not accept other peoples shit.

I don't mind helping people in an emergency, but I won't accept packages.

YANBU @Iwantcollarbones

Iv had similar, delivery people seem to have clocked on that I'm WFH so are constantly knocking on the door, I'm on meetings etc, I've started telling them not to knock unless the parcel is for me.
Do the same, don't be embarrassed, its not on, so irritating

Contact her through Instagram and tell her that you cannot take in parcels. Then she can redirect if they can't leave them in a safe place

Take the batteries out of your door bell. Not your circus, not your monkeys.

CF, stick something over your buzzer or a note to say do not buzz no ... not accepting deliveries

If you rent the flat just to study in then you shouldn't really be getting much post of your own to that address, so can you just turn the buzzer off when you're there?

Just take the parcel and keep the goods and say that you didn't receive anything, when she comes knocking. Also does she come to take her goods from you or do you drop it to her?

It sounds like too many. I have at least one a day usually work related but not for neighbours as the neighbours and I are usually in for our own anyway. I don't like having other people's here but will take them if asked (but it's very rare).

Disconnect the doorbell. Ignore the door. Stop procrastinating and get on with your studying

Thanks everyone. I didn’t think I was being unreasonable but it’s good to know that others share that view.

@LisaLee333

I never ever EVER accept peoples packages. I don't want them accepting mine either. I have a designated 'safe space' for them to be left (on my property,) and that's where mine go if I am not in.

I refuse to take responsibility for other peoples property and items, and have a notice on my front door saying 'I DO NOT ACCEPT NEIGHBOURS PACKAGES, PLEASE DO NOT KNOCK, UNLESS THE PACKAGE IS FOR THIS PROPERTY.'

My DH works shifts and is sometimes in bed in the mornings, and also, I work from home, and do not want to be bothered by people knocking my door to drop off packages, then having to keep the bloody thing in my house, be responsible for it, then have to wait for them to come get it, or go around to their house, (in the dark and the cold,) hope they are in, and wait for them to answer the door.

Also, covid19 is a good reason to not accept other peoples shit.

I don't mind helping people in an emergency, but I won't accept packages.

YANBU @Iwantcollarbones

you sound like a lovely neighbour

No one excepts parcels for my neighbours as the have managed to annoy everyone, it tends to always be the same delivery people so they do not bother knocking and asking anymore. Everyone else takes them in for each other but no piss takers so it’s fine. It’s ok to just say “no”.

Although I only accept a parcel for two or three neighbours I know, I have had one or two of mine delivered to people I don't even know, and was grateful they had accepted them.

Oops! Sorry, I pressed YABU by accident.

I don't know why someone who is absent would order so many packages, if she knows she isn't going to be in when they arrive. At the least, she should have asked you if you minded, and if you didn't want to be involved, she should have her parcels delivered somewhere else, perhaps to a friend's address.

Put a note on your door stating that you do not accept deliveries for somebody else

Most couriers have a set area so they'll soon all pick up on it. The woman in question sounds entitled

Stick a note up on the door saying you don’t take parcels in for anyone else. I’d also remove the note on hers.

We have been getting a lot of parcels recently. I always put on the notes "do not deliver next door" as we have elderly neighbours and i don't want to disturb them but they always do! I have a note on my door too but that gets ignored also. Yanbu.

How on earth can one person have so many deliveries? I find this baffling.

How on earth can one person have so many deliveries? I find this baffling
I hate online shopping but bought DC some clothes. A chain store decided to send each individual item from my order in a separate bag. It was wasteful in terms of plastic packaging and courier time
I'd have been mortified if my neighbours had to deal with it, but it was genuinely a company decision.

Some people simple love online shopping though. I have friends who think nothing of ordering several hundred pounds of stuff, spend an afternoon trying it on and then sending half of it back.