To "tip" the tutor?

[Ohjustboreoff]

My DH and I are having a bit of a disagreement so wondered if you lovely people could give me your opinions.
We have a lovely lady who has been tutoring my youngest DH for 1hr a week for the past 6 weeks. I have bought her a bottle of bubbles and DS has written her a Christmas card but..
I thought I'd give her an extra weeks wages as well as the bottle but DH thinks that's too much as she's only been with us a few months so a card and bottle is fine.
I've never had an employee before so WWYD?

I'd get her an amazon gift card too. A good tutor is to be treasured.

I agree with your DH. I'd say, after just 6 weeks, a bottle of bubbly is more than generous. Defo not an extra week's wages as well. She'll be v happy!

Thanks, she is lovely and DS adores her but she has only been with us a short time. But didn't want to appear stingy.

Wow. My DH is a private tutor. He's never been paid extra. He does get lots of cards and wine though.

I have done tutoring in the past. I have recieved Christmas presents (most generous was a £50 gift card from a child I tutor for an hour a week at £30 per hour), plenty of students give nothing which is fine. I think I'd feel embarrased by cash to be honest. I really appreciate a nice card with a genuine message.

No tip. A card saying what a difference she's made will be the most appreciated thing you can do.

That said, we give flowers sometimes!

Tutor here: I don't expect anything but really appreciate bubbly, chocolates or nice cards.
December is a very tough month for tutoring, so cash in a card, especially when I was starting out, have made a huge difference to me on occasion.

Help, she's just shown up with box of choc biscuits for me and a selection box for both my kids. Don't think the boys bled alone will cut it alone anymore!

*bubbles

I'm a private tutor, but I never expect to be 'tipped' or to receive presents at Christmas. Yes, some parents do, but I never expect it. I'm not sure many private tutors would expect it either, to be honest.

I think its pretty insulting and patronising to offer a professional a tip. You wouldn't slip your solicitor an envelope with £50 in it or your GP a twenty pound note in a card, would you? It changes a professional relationship into a employee/employer relationship.

I'm sure they'd love a decent bottle of wine and a gift token though.

Present is enough and very kind.

@CherryPavlova wow who pissed on your chips!
I'm not really "tipping" I was thinking of another weeks wage. Maybe I should have used the word bonus!

Ohjustboreoff I'm sure you didn't 😊but it might be perceived as such,

We had a great maths tutor who worked with both of my kids. He was lovely and the kids loved him. The demand for good maths tutors greatly exceeds the supply where I am. I often sent him home with homemade baked goods and gave him a nice amazon gift voucher at the end of each term. Both were gratefully and graciously received.

I'm a tutor and have never been tipped. I've had the odd box of chocolates over the years. I don't expect anything at all. The champagne you are suggesting is really thoughtful but unnecessary after 6 weeks, if at all, imo. What I really love and appreciate is when parents let me know their DC's results in August (I tutor mostly GCSE and A level). If they go on and write a nice review or recommend me to their friends that is an added bonus.

@Ohjustboreoff

Help, she's just shown up with box of choc biscuits for me and a selection box for both my kids. Don't think the boys bled alone will cut it alone anymore!

It's quite normal for tutors to give presents to tutees. I've done it a bit especially with younger ones but I am sure she doesn't expect anything back.

Thanks for all your advice. I did end up giving an extra week as a thank you but squirrelled it away in his card so he wouldn't get embarrassed.