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AIBU to want to see my brother at Christmas.

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findthelight · 15/12/2020 00:06

My brother lives in the adult care system as he's got Downs Syndrome and has learning difficulties. Downs has recently been put on the CEV list. After arranging for him to go home I got a call today saying they are strongly advising against home visits. I argued that I've not seen him for months and he always comes at Christmas. They got a bit difficult saying he'd have to isolate for 10 days and times would be understand and manage this. I'd have to isolate for 10 days before. Basically making it really hard for him to go and I feel putting barriers in the way. I feel quite annoyed that they are discouraging him from going home to his family. It's really unfair. In my area numbers are coming down sharply. I'm more or less isolating anyway except for food shopping. My parents aren't going anywhere. He goes to the day centre which I feel is more of a risk. We're very close by the way. AIBU to want him home for Christmas? Or is the care manager right? What would you do?

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Brighterthansunflowers · 15/12/2020 00:23

YANBU to want to see him

But it doesn’t sound like the jobs are “putting barriers” in place to stop that. They’re putting measures in place to keep him and the other residents safe.

missbunnyrabbit · 15/12/2020 00:25

See him. Not to be morbid, but imagine if he suddenly died and you hadn't seen him at Christmas. You'd feel awful. Everyone only gets one life, make the most of it. See your loved ones.

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