I’m aware this is slightly irrational but it’s annoying the crap out of me.
DP has to phone his DC everyday atm as he hasn’t been able to see them due to them having to isolate for 14 days... this phone call usually last 20-30 mins daily around dinner time. So I obviously have to do our baby dinnertime etc whilst he’s doing that... it’s annoying as it’s a manic time but I can’t begrudge him phoning his children as he is really missing then.
But then after appearing from that he may phone his mum for 20 mins as he’s missing her and then he will appear for half an hour and then will phone his sister/brother this call can last up to an hour. These aren’t every day but probably 3-4 times a week.
Now I know his family matter.... but if anyone calls me it’s a quick 5 minute call or I’ll say I’ll call later when DCs are in bed, I don’t have the time to leisurely chat to anyone really.
I’m at home all day and he’s a work then when he’s home in the evening it’s phonecalls all the blooodyyyy time... now as I being mean ?
YABU- he should be able to speak to his family at leisure
YANBU - he should put the phone down and help out with DC