For several years now he has been complaining to me about his mental health. He has the option of free counselling through his work but despite me telling him to use it he has never bothered to sort it out. He just kind of complains to me as though it’s my responsibility to do something for him?!
As way of background he is a very heavy drinker and a pretty selfish man. It used to be a common occurrence for him to stay out most of the night drinking and I later discovered doing drugs. A few years ago we were living in a house that was being completely renovated, had a small child, another on the way and my dad was dying. He spent 4-5 nights a week out until all hours. I’d never know where he was etc. This continued after my dad died until I decided enough was enough. He then got his act together for a while at least.
He has now reframed this as his “mental breakdown”. Which frankly pisses me off as it was me left to deal with everything and who ended up on medication for anxiety. I had no support from him at all and see that as one of the worst periods in my life. For the record he wasn’t close to my dad at all before anyone says that he was also grieving.
Now with all of the lockdowns etc this year he is back to moaning about his mental health yet does absolutely nothing to try and help himself. It really feels as though he expects me to arrange counselling or something for him. Everyone in the country, if not the world, is in the same boat this year but the way he talks it’s as though he’s having a much harder time than anyone.
Today he has come in complaining again and saying how he is going to eat the CBD chocolate he bought, but that I will probably stop him. He bought it months ago and I’ve never said a word about it so I don’t know what he is on about. It just feels like attention seeking and that he is laying it at my feet expecting me to sort it out for him ( like I’m expected to sort out most things in our lives).
AIBU unreasonable to have snapped at him that if he really feels he has mental health problems that he should do something about it?! I’m not exactly in a great place myself and have been on and off antidepressants for years but he has not once given a jot of care.