Desperate please help

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Got a phonecall about DD2, 16 that she was found unconscious at 2 in the morning last night. The police etc took a while to trace us. Rushed to hospital, Dd ok but could have died as had vomit in airways from drinking... I also believe she took drugs, think shes still high.

Got home, went up to her room, heard her loudly talking about what a great night it was, how shes still tripping etc lol’ing😭😭
Ended up arguing... she does not give a dam... strongly suspect she has mental issues... had already arranged 3rd gp appointment for tomorrow and hospital referred her to chams (?)

We desperately want to help her, she seems adamant on fucking her life up. What should we do?😭😭

She doesn't necessarily have MH issues. Shes a teenager who got high and wasted. Relax. It's going to be okay

Sorry OP could just read and run. Just try and keep the communication channels open with her. Cahms help children and adolescents with their mental health. Somebody will be along soon to offer more advice. It is such a stressful time for you. Best wishes to you xx

Thanks Blue

I just want to say I was your daughter when I was younger, I was really rebellious, caught drinking at 15, lying to my whereabouts, staying out all night and had a trip to hospital for being drunk.
The only things I could recommend are showing her that you love her and making her see how nice her family are and what the impact is if she were to go down a drink/drug path. When I was taking drugs I would often think how would my parents cope if something awful happened to me. It made me think twice.
Also do you have any friends in the police or medical professions that could give her a talking to about the impact of drugs and drink?
On a lighter side my mum would write messages on my cigarettes length ways like ‘I love you’ ‘think of your lungs’, my friends used to laugh at it when I would hand them out but it was also a little reminder (in the moment) that bought me back to reality. Hide or lock all your alcohol in your house, me and my friends would take vodka out of the bottle and replace it with water. Don’t give her access to it.
Try and get her interested in other things, maybe an activity that involves fitness to give her a focus (horse riding, gym or dance) or an opportunity to make a different group of friends. Or a part time job as a waitress so it is evenings which means she can’t be out drinking (but it will give her disposable income so it’s a juggling act)
Also think of joining up with her friends parents, it’s much harder for her to lie to you if you can double check her whereabouts with her friend’s parents. You can also work with them to have a united message of expectations- time to come home, locations they can go to etc.

Hope that helps and good luck! I have two DDs and am not looking forward to the teenage years!!