AIBU to be scared they will think it's an excuse?

[phoebecleaning]

I’ve had problems with my lower back since I gave birth to my son in 2016. There’s always that one spot in my lower back that hurts if you touch it. I’ve wanted to see someone for it, but said to myself once I lose weight I will, cuz I thought they would say yeah it’s probably because of your weight. I’m 18 btw, it has not really affected me at all, only hurts when you touch that spot in my lower pain. It’s painful, sharp pain.

For the last few weeks, I wake up every morning unable to pick things up from the floor, can’t even put my shoes on because of the pain. Every time I move I can feel it.

As the day goes it gets better, I can put my shoes on and pick things up from the floor, but I can still feel the pain when I’m walking.

Even when sitting up it hurts, but gets better when I lie down.

I have a cleaning business, and I only have 2 clients now, I honestly can’t do it anymore. But I have anxiety, and overthink a lot, so I feel like if I tell them I can’t do the cleaning anymore because of my back they would be like 🙄,not believe me. I know it’s silly 🙈 but that’s what overthinking does to you. I hate letting people down. They had cleaners before, but they didn’t like the way they clean, they like me and they’re lovely clients, I just hate letting people down 😢

I'm seeing one of them today btw

What treatment are you getting for your back pain?

First I think you should go speak to a Dr why don't you explain to your clients that you apologise but you will be unavailable for a few weeks due to back problems.

Then you can reassess when hopefully you have had it checked etc.

You need to see a doctor if you are in that much pain. You need to rest it surely.

Please see a doctor.

@OwlinaTree Rest isn't always indicated for back pain any more, it can actually better long term to keep gently and carefully moving in your normal activities.

If you can afford it I would go to a chiropractor or osteopath.

I have back issues both lower and upper and I see a chiropractor regularly. I used to only go if there was an issue but for the last 8 years or so I go every couple of months. It makes such a difference and I never get any bad pain issues now.

I am over weight too. It’s not necessarily related to your weight.

Thank you. I'll book an appt soon, it's not a dull pain. It's a sharp pain in the middle of my lower back. Feels like someone is constantly holding a knife to my back.

If I tell my client today is the last day, is that bad? Not enough notice? I can't do it anymore

Just say for today that you need to take a few weeks off because of your back pain and you'll be in touch in the new year. That opens the way for you telling them later.

Are you age 18, size 18 or 18 stone?

Did you have your son at 14?

Sorry I meant 18 stone

Regardless of your weight, definitely get it checked out - tell them how long it has been going on for and the escalation of it and hopefully your doctor will take it seriously - I'm now in the NHS pathways being investigated for long term back pain (not the same as yours but I also do struggle in the morning). I have also seen a private sports physio and I'm booked to see an osteopath in a few days. The only thing with NHS is that they won't see you (I'm having NHS physio phone calls where I haven't been physically seen and assessed and I am being given advice and exercises that was which makes me uneasy so I'm still seeing People privately too). If you do have some spare money, I'd get yourself seen privately.

I know I'm late to this thread, but I hope you found some relief, @phoebecleaning ! Let me know what worked, because I have the exact pain!