To consider another baby...

[LuckyNumberThirteen]

I suppose a WWYD topic would be more appropriate than AIBU but hear me out.

I have one son who is four and a half.

Last year, my husband and I had hoped to try for a second but I was made redundant in January, then started a new job two weeks before lockdown. So we put it on hold.

I'm thinking about trying again now but I was really ill last time. Multiple hospital stays with HG. Physio for SPD. Chances are the next time would be much the same.

Am I being unreasonable to consider this during a pandemic? Not to mention selfish and stupid?

I do worry about the age gap so it does feel a bit now or never.

Your age is not a big issue (although you never know). Reading your post DS is nearly 5 based on that reason I would start trying now because you don’t know how long it will take for you to fall pregnant again. Just pray your pregnacy is a lot easier the 2nd time around.

I dont think a 5 year age gap is that different to a 6 year age gap.

I think plan for the worst and hope for the best but if your husband wants a second and is happy to pick up the slack and do extra to look after your son then I'd say go for it and maybe plan to do some special things with your son after you're better. I was ill for 6 months last year (not pregnancy related) and hardly interacted with my kids for a few months of that and they don't actually seem any worse for it, they got closer to their dad which was good as before they would generally ask for me and now its more equal so it wasnt all awful

Thank you.

I've said on another thread that I always wanted one boy, so I'm quite happy how we are. But then I get a bolt of broodiness and it's getting stronger.

My husband would have had four if it were up to him! His argument is also we are both really close to our siblings so why wouldn't we want our son to experience that.