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Fluffybutter · 11/12/2020 21:01

We sold our house in august and got an offer accepted on a home we really liked , our buyers sold theirs to a first time buyer .
All was going well until what should have been exchange when the bottom of the chains’ solicitor stopped communicating for a good few weeks and then all of a sudden decided to question the length of the lease of the property she was buying even though the mortgage lender had already taken the years left into account ..
Anyway ... this meant a massive delay while she fucked around and ignored calls and emails so in the end the house we were buying pulled out as they got cold feet and the wife had changed their mind about selling.
This meant we were fucked as need to complete before the stamp duty holiday ends so we had to look super fast for somewhere else.
Found a fantastic house for same price but with an extra bedroom so put in an offer.
Mean while the ones who pulled out said they’ll still go ahead if we exchange imminently but not complete till jan.
Are we unfair to say no fuck off , as they messed us around ?
We have everything in place now so only need to get new searches so could still be in end of jan to this new place so wouldn’t hold up our buyers much and considering they should have been chasing their buyer instead of us doing all the emailing and calling ..
Not sure if this is shitty of us or not ?
Sorry it’s so long !

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sqirrelfriends · 11/12/2020 21:09

So the owners of the house you originally looked at have messed your around.

You have also found a new house that is better.

Seems like a no brainier to me, you don't owe them anything.

Fluffybutter · 11/12/2020 21:11

@sqirrelfriends

So the owners of the house you originally looked at have messed your around.

You have also found a new house that is better.

Seems like a no brainier to me, you don't owe them anything.

Yes , they accepted an offer from us in august and we have been pretty much contract ready since November but bottom of the chain was holding us up .
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ScrapThatThen · 11/12/2020 21:14

Buy the house you prefer! You can't buy a house you don't want to keep someone else happy.

SpudsandGravy · 11/12/2020 21:19

You need to do what's best for you, OP. Buying a house is (obvs) a very big deal. Good luck and I hope you get the one you prefer Thanks

Fluffybutter · 11/12/2020 21:20

@ScrapThatThen

Buy the house you prefer! You can't buy a house you don't want to keep someone else happy.
Yes you’re right of course , just been so bloody stressful ! Needed to be told that it was ok to pull out because they were pissing around . They are nice people but I kind of don’t trust them anymore as if we didn’t exchange before Christmas how would we know they wouldn’t pull out again and then we’d be really screwed!
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Fluffybutter · 11/12/2020 21:23

@SpudsandGravy

You need to do what's best for you, OP. Buying a house is (obvs) a very big deal. Good luck and I hope you get the one you prefer Thanks
Thank you, appreciate that. Smile I know they say it’s the most stressful thing but it had been ok until this last month and then it went to shit . I’ve felt so ill every day and I think I may even possibly have a stomach ulcer !
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Carrotcakefiend · 11/12/2020 21:24

Buy the house you want, it's too big of a deal to appease the original sellers. Also, you'll spend all the time thinking about the 'better' house, and not enjoy the original one as much because of it. If it really is better and bigger.... Why the same price as original? One option is to ask the current sellers to accept a lower offer from you, for mucking you about. Btw, people pull out of houses for much less valid reasons than finding one they prefer more.

VetiverAndLavender · 11/12/2020 21:24

It's their own fault for having second thoughts and putting everyone else into turmoil. If they hadn't, you wouldn't have found this other, better house, and everything would've gone according to plan. They have no-one to blame but themselves. I'd definitely go with what I felt was best for me and my family. It's too big a decision to be swayed by the desire to be seen to be "nice".

Fluffybutter · 11/12/2020 21:24

Oh I should add the offer was accepted on the better house and then our original house came back and said they’d be willing to sell still but on their terms .
Sorry I just realised I didn’t make that clear

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Bargebill19 · 11/12/2020 21:27

Buy the better house. No brainer and it’s their problem.

Fluffybutter · 11/12/2020 21:30

@Carrotcakefiend

Buy the house you want, it's too big of a deal to appease the original sellers. Also, you'll spend all the time thinking about the 'better' house, and not enjoy the original one as much because of it. If it really is better and bigger.... Why the same price as original? One option is to ask the current sellers to accept a lower offer from you, for mucking you about. Btw, people pull out of houses for much less valid reasons than finding one they prefer more.
I think it’s because the estate agent put it on too high but it really is the better house . It has another bedroom, an en-suite for my ds as well as us , bigger bedrooms overall, the garden backs on to lovely woodland and the EPC is also better . Also means we can still walk dd to school rather than drive . The first house was overpriced I think because of the housing boom but we kind of glazed over that as we really wanted to move.
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Fluffybutter · 11/12/2020 21:31

@VetiverAndLavender

It's their own fault for having second thoughts and putting everyone else into turmoil. If they hadn't, you wouldn't have found this other, better house, and everything would've gone according to plan. They have no-one to blame but themselves. I'd definitely go with what I felt was best for me and my family. It's too big a decision to be swayed by the desire to be seen to be "nice".
This is what I needed to hear . I’ve realised this now .
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Caterinaballerina · 11/12/2020 21:33

A ‘sorry we are buying somewhere else’ is the answer here and say no more about it

notangelinajolie · 11/12/2020 21:34

You owe them nothing. Seize the opportunity and buy the better house.

Carrotcakefiend · 11/12/2020 23:26

@Fluffybutter... Go go go! You can do this and live happily ever after!! :) :)

Also, the idea of an ensuite for DS (age?) sounds ideal... From what my SIL says about my nephew, sharing a bathroom with a 10-18 y/o boy is reason enough to move!

Cherryberrypies · 11/12/2020 23:30

They showed little regard for you when they pulled out. You’d spent time and money on the property. Don’t feel bad!

Get your lovely new house, which sounds much better for you and your family.

Fluffybutter · 12/12/2020 07:41

Thanks so much everyone, you’ve all helped massively!
Just hope we can get it all wrapped up quickly 🤞🏼

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