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Things will only get better right?

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Annie2746 · 11/12/2020 18:32

Posting here for traffic. Things aren’t great at home at the minute. It’s myself, partner and our two dc. Well eldest isn’t biologically his but he’s raised him.

They both have additional needs and hard work. Partner is a very hands on dad but works long hours. This means he’s usually really tired and can be short tempered and often cannot be assed to go out at the weekends etc. Fair enough.

I’m a stay at home parent. I’m exhausted too.

Both dc go to school which is a break for me I guess but there’s so much to do at home I never relax.

We don’t have many friends in the area. Our families live a short drive away but don’t see much of them even before covid. They struggle to understand or accept dc having additional needs.

DS doesn’t fall asleep until 10-11pm (he’s 10). He doesn’t see much of his dad. There is no break.

Myself and partner have zero time to ourselves! Not even in the evenings as above.

My kids are always fighting and bickering and don’t get along too.

Myself and partner are drifting apart.

DS is particularly hard work. Screaming, shouting when he doesn’t get his own way, he doesn’t stop, he’s always on the go, he swears etc. I feel done.

Things can only get better right?

What the hell am I meant to do? I feel so unhappy all the time 😩🙁 there is no support around and I’m feeling so lonely!

OP posts:
Screwcorona · 11/12/2020 18:37

Do you have a friend even one, who you could pay to babysit for an evening? To go get dinner out with your other half.

Or a local professional babysitter.
There are agencies with people background checked and can see if they have a childcare background, or any qualifications. They should be made aware of additional needs but I wouldnt have thought It would be a huge problem

Saz12 · 11/12/2020 19:30

It can be pretty hard to get childcare /babysitters for children with ASN, and you really don’t want someone who will set your DC back But if you could, that would be ideal.

Can DH take a day off work when DC’s are at school? Then you could have a lazy morning followed by a nice lunch out somewhere.

Is it feasible to get DC to do anything for an hour in the evening that doesn’t need adult supervision?

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