AIBU to not buy presents for other children?

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Was talking to someone earlier and they suggested I should be sending a selection box or similar for the other children my daughters childminder looks after.

Is that a thing? Would I be unreasonable to just send a card each?

No it’s not a thing. I’m a childminder & have never had this happen in my setting. Occasionally people send in cakes for their child’s birthday but not often at all. Don’t feel under pressure.

That would give the other parents the burden of reciprocity. Don’t do it!

Not a thing. I do buy a small gift for our childminder's dc but she buys a gift for my dc.

I've never heard of this as a thing before. I don't think there is any need and all the other parents will feel obligated to reciprocate.

Oh no, why would you do that, don't start down that bonkers road, I'm sure that is not a thing

Definitely not a thing. And I’d be a bit annoyed to have chocolates from some random parents I’ve never met and then feel the need to reciprocate!

I'm a childminder and no, generally parents don't send presents or anything for the other kids. I've had the odd one, but its not the norm.

I've been childminding for over 20yrs and it's definitely not a thing.

No no no. I don't even give presents to my friend's kids, why in the world to stranger's kids?

Do not start that. Imagine if there are 8 kids (no idea on ratios) not only is it a pain for you, is a pain for the other parents who feel they have to reciprocate, then your kid ends up bringing home 7 selection boxes. Then you have to deal with the tantrums for not letting them eat 7 selection boxes at once.

No way and I wouldn’t bother with a card either, pointless transaction

No, we were in the other side of this and it really does make you feel you need to buy too and guilty you havnt. We give a birthday (if we know) and christmas card but that's it, and they are normally ones LO has 'made' xx