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AIBU?

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' Bugging the phone and computer.'

39 replies

llizzie · 11/12/2020 15:36

Sorry, this is long, but I need to explain the situation, which actually is quite interesting to those who have had the same problem, and a warning for those who have not. For years now - 11 since my DH passed away - I have had constant interference on the phone and the computer has been impossible most of the time. I have had a computer since 2005. When my DH died I started getting endless phone calls from cold callers - always the 'get you out of debt' kind. I was not in debt, although no life assurance. My daughter gave me a guardian phone about four years ago when they came out. It worked, except that it was almost impossible to speak to people for more than a few minutes because of the crackling. I would move about the house trying to find a place to speak without interference. It also meant that when the phone rang I heard it and got up each time (I am disabled) and stood by the guardian extension waiting to see if the caller continued. I hardly ever use the phone, so only family.
The computer was a misery too. I was constantly calling in the engineer for help. It got worse when I had a smart TV, and I still cannot access the catch up boxes. I had to try three times whenever I went into a site. I got the turned down page and the dinosaur every time I tried. Grocery shopping was a misery, because every five minutes I had to sign in again, and the popups in the bottom right corner were constant, no matter how I tried to stop them. The engineer blamed the phone line, because when I had the first one in 2005 my SIL ran the line from the front door to the study, over the top of the walls. The engineer said I had to get a new line directly into the study. I did explore that possiblity.

I had BT phone line and talktalk computer and aol. I could not get a straight answer from either. In fact, when talk talk this year were advertising fibre optics, I contacted them online to have this, but they said ''it is not possible at t he moment''. BT engineer admitted there was a fault somewhere, but that was all. No one offered to explore further.
It was so bad, and so worrying, especially as it was taking me 2 or 3 hours to order the shopping online, that when Plusnet advertised in September I signed up for it. On September 22 BT stopped the line. I WAS STILL RECEIVING INCOMING CALLS although I could not dial out. When my helper came and set up the new router and connected plusnet, ALL MY PROBLEMS DISAPPEARED. I have had no lost connections and absolutely no interference on the phone or the computer, that it takes hardly 30 minutes to place an order. Not once has there been any crackling or interference on the phone, BUT THE CREEPIEST is that now I no longer hear the phone ringing from the study to the bedroom: I only hear those calls put through for those who know about the guardian message. The disability living extension was built in 2001. I have had problems with the neighbour from before that. In the wet room there is what looks like and electricity plate. When I had a new xpelair installed in the wet room about 4 years ago, I asked the electrician if it was connected to the xpelair light/ventilation and he said it was not. The computer engineer said that it was not connected with the telephone. Now I am wondering what it is, and whether it has anything to do with the fact that I no longer hear the phone ring in the study. I am pleased about that because I do not have to keep getting up, but the phone was ringing so often I cancelled calls on the extension, sometimes 20 a week because the memory was full, and I still do not know why my phone rang even though it was cut off by BT at midnight on 22/9.2020.

I should be relieved, but now I wonder why, because there has certainly been a change for the better, but wonder how long it will last.

OP posts:
StillCoughingandLaughing · 11/12/2020 15:38

I honestly have no clue what you’re asking.

Oldraver · 11/12/2020 15:43

This sounds totally bonkers

AngusThermopyle · 11/12/2020 15:44

What is the 'AIBU'?

frogswimming · 11/12/2020 15:45

I'm afraid that was a bit complicated for me to follow too

JorisBonson · 11/12/2020 15:45
Hmm
DesiderataH · 11/12/2020 15:51

I've read this a couple of times, and still cannot make heads or tails out of your long and rambling post. I can only suggest you've got a haunted phone line....

AdoraBell · 11/12/2020 15:52

Do you think your neighbour was bugging the phone line?

BefuddledPerson · 11/12/2020 15:54

Blatant place mark in hope of further clarification from the op!

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 11/12/2020 15:56

What the fcuk have I just read? Confused

P1ainJanine · 11/12/2020 16:01

It is normal to be able to receive calls on a land line after your contract ends, so that is not unusual. You could probably have made outgoing 999 calls, too. Just not ordinary outbound calls.

Sounds to me like there was a problem at the local roadside green box you were connected to, and switching provider has removed or fixed it.

None of the mains electrical stuff in the house should be connected to your phone - that would be pretty dangerous, so I would discount that as a source of interference - especially since it's gone after the switch of phone/internet provider.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 11/12/2020 16:01

I'm sorry I have no idea what you're trying to say. Do you have carers or any kind of support system (professionals as opposed to family/friends?).

PoppyOppy · 11/12/2020 16:01

Can you give us the TL:DR version please?

maybemu · 11/12/2020 16:03

Confused I'm so confused But I think this is what you mean.

You used to have lots of problems with a poor internet connect and crackling on your phone line.
At some point you have changed provider?

You mention BT call guardian which stops junk phone calls getting through. This might be why you no long get many calls.

I really can't understand the AIBU? Is it that you were worried your phone was bugged? I'm getting that from your title.

Verrucapepper · 11/12/2020 16:12

Gosh that was long and I still don’t get it?

ikltownofboothlehem · 11/12/2020 16:13

You have some quite unusual ideas.

PlanDeRaccordement · 11/12/2020 16:18

It sounds like you had the same connecting catv internet/phone cable coming into your house from 2005 when you first got a computer. Over time, these cables wear out internally which would cause the cracklings noises you heard and the slow/bad internet connections you had.

When you called in the plusnet people, they would have immediately seen your cabling going from green box on your road to your home was out of date and would have replaced it- which is why your problems disappeared.

The things you experienced do not indicate bugging of your phone or computer. Technology today is such that “bugging” is not detectable to the human ear, no device is needed in the house and on computer or on phone. It can all be done remotely using software.

unmarkedbythat · 11/12/2020 16:35

You sound very anxious about this, op. Is anything else worrying you? Have you talked to your daughter about these concerns? What's her thinking on it?

Cheeseandwin5 · 11/12/2020 16:37

I am so sorry to ask this but do you think the death of your DH, may have an effect to cause stress and paranoia with you?
That maybe you need a mental health break to see if are ok?

80sColourfulChristmas · 11/12/2020 16:55

Do you have a social worker OP or a support worker?

TinselToedElf · 11/12/2020 17:11

I'm sure I saw you on a thread I'm following earlier today about an OP being creeped out by strange goings on in her house when she was alone overnight.

On your post you'd said you were convinced (I'm paraphrasing here) that someone had been gaining access to your house and moving stuff? Or something like that.

So my question Op is what's caused you to post this and comment on the other thread today? It does seem paranoid so I guess I'm asking if you're ok and what may have triggered it?

llizzie · 11/12/2020 18:06

I thank you for your posts and apologise for not making it clearer. I should have asked AIBU thinking that someone has been monitoring my phone and computer? Until midnight on 22/09, when BT cut the phone off at midnight and talk talk was disconnected at my request and I changed servers my life was intolerable. Why was I still receiving phone calls? 22/9 will be etched on my mind forever. How is it possible that I was receiving phone calls when the line was disconnected? Later that afternoon we connected the Plusnet router. From that time there has not been any interference at all. The same line, same number, same everything, just no interference.

Only the server is changed. If I had done that before I would not have had any problems. Now I wait to see if

AIBU to think that someone has been interfering with my phone and computer? I do not think so. I had past experiences in the house, which I thought had been dealt with, but will not confuse the issue further.

OP posts:
JorisBonson · 11/12/2020 18:30

Maybe BT are just shit where you are? 🤷🏻‍♀️

ikltownofboothlehem · 11/12/2020 18:56

In the nicest possible way - why do you think someone would bug or monitor you? Who do you think it could be? It takes a fair amount of effort & skill to bug phone lines. Would anyone you can think go to that kind of trouble and for what reason?

slashlover · 11/12/2020 18:57

You think a neighbour has been tapping your phone since your DH passed away? If they were then changing provider wouldn't so that and it wouldn't cause pop ups on your computer. Do you live alone OP or have you anyone else who could have knocked a connection loose? (new partner, young child etc)?

llizzie · 11/12/2020 19:27

ikltownofboothlehem I do not know for sure, but could you offer another explanation?

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