To say to the men (and women) concerned about male victims of domestic violence...

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I did some research and I found the following links:
www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/help-for-men/ Refuge is a charity set up by women and I think primarily staffed by women but they offer help to men as well. So you can contact them if you are in need of assistance, or alternatively donate money if you want to help.

www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-northamptonshire-43230406 refuges for male victims of domestic violence have been set up although they are quite few in number (quite possibly too few). But they are there if you need them, and maybe if you donate more money/campaign more can be set up
If you want to contribute exclusively to male victims of domestic violence you can look here: www.mankind.org.uk/support-us/
There is also a confidential helpline: 01823 334244 for male victims of domestic violence.

Finally, there is this www.prevent-suicide.org.uk/alright-mate-mens-suicide-prevention-campaign/ Its a very very worthy cause.

If anyone has any other reccomendations feel free to share below. Alternatively if you want to discuss ways to make a positive change maybe this thread would be good for that. :)

The numbers are small, but one day it could be our brother, our son.

Glad to see this highlighted.

SSAFA btw provide facilities for military families fleeing DV. They won't put men into group homes, but will find individual safe accommodation instead for anyone for whom there is not a suitable existing place

Not quite the same but related

Rape Crisis were amazing with my brother. And there’s an organisation called Survivors UK which supports men who have been raped or sexually abused, and their families.

for your brother. Thanks for posting. I found them very helpful as well but I didnt know anything about it from the male perspective.

Excellent work, op!

Nothing much to add, except to say thanks for highlighting this. I grew up witnessing emotional & physical abuse (male perpetrator / female victim in our case) and am old enough to remember the whole shitty This Is Something We Don't Talk About climate. I think that climate's still there for male victims and it shouldn't be

I agree, it needs dragging into the light, although I think that climate is still there for female victims of male volence to an extent as well. I think also, the impact on children (male and female) needs to be explored. Both boys and girls can, I think, feel immense guilt for not being able to protect their mothers (Robert Webb's excellent autobiography touches on this) even if they arent directly hurt themselves. I suspect that growing older there can be shame for boys to talk about it because of cultural expectations and that can have a massive impact on their future happiness. Its something that I worry about for my son (who was three at the time). What is helping is that a new generation of men are starting to talk about it - that can only be a good thing.

After watching my brother get stabbed in the face with a ripped apart coke can while also being kicked in the chest as he held their daughter, I tend to be quite vocal about this issue. Because my witness statement did shit all.

That’s not to say I don’t see the differences but it does need to be as openly talked about so that men know there is help if they’re in this situation too.

Mankind were amazing with him. The police were not. He now has another partner and DS. The way they are bringing him up is inspiring.