To get the rage over this? Nail biting.

[liveitwell]

I'm a nail biter. And a lip picker. Always have been. No idea if it's just habit or anxiety but it's nothing new.

I've been with my partner 14 years and everytime I do it in his company he will make a point of glaring at me and either telling me to stop or making stupid gestures to do it subtly.

His rationale is he hates the noise and doesn't want our kids picking up on it - although he did it well before we had kids.

I get he doesnt like the sound. I get he'd rather I didn't do it. But AIBU to find this rude and controlling? Or is it generally acceptable to keep going on at someone about what is undoubtedly a bad habit? Am I the rude one to do it in front of him when I know it irritates him?

YABU - he is just trying to help me stop
YANBU - it's my right to do it without being judged

I have a relative that constantly picks at skin on his hands, it sounds like somebody clicking a pen on and off. Friends have told me to try and ignore it but after a couple of hours I feel really stressed, so I can sympathise with your DH. I imagine that most of the time you are not really aware that you are nail biting and lip chewing but believe me it is so annoying and very hard for others to ignore.
Can you try and do something else with your hands such as crochet? I won’t suggest knitting because the noise of the needles might annoy your DH as much as nail biting!

@TheSilveryPussycat

Haha I just searched it and no! Whilst I love to pick my own skin, spots etc I'm not keen on other people's boils 😂

I did stop for a brief time a few years ago. Used vaseline constantly on my hands to stop the dry skin (which is often what I'm biting) and painted my nails which stopped me biting.

I just don't feel quite ready to try it again if you know what I mean. It takes a concerted effort and I'm not sure I'm there yet...