To ask when to stop sending named cards?

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At what point do you stop buying cards with 'Dad' or 'Mum' etc?

Is it when you have your own family etc or when you get married, is that when you start buying cards such as 'from all of us' or 'from our family to yours'?

What kind of cards do you buy/send?

Adding DH name onto a dad card with a lovely dad message DIL is added on to "Mum" cards from my DS (as is the dog). Since she's lovely, it makes me very happy.

It makes a card more personal than one out of a pack of 10. You can of course get single cards which don't have a name on them. Some of them are nice enough to make it clear to the recipient they're specially bought.

The other DS in the last couple of years has taken to writing rather flowery messages in cards (as a family, we're firmly in the "Happy birthday, love from..." school) and I'm finding myself quite touched, and can't bring myself to throw them away. My mantelpiece is getting crowded.

Never done it. I think they look tacky.

I still buy those cards, just as I always have, and sign them with all of our names instead of just mine.

Never.

Never sent them. I just pick the nicest ones out of the multipack for my favourite people. When did this become a thing anyway?

“ You can of course get single cards which don't have a name on them. Some of them are nice enough to make it clear to the recipient they're specially bought.”

This. And with birthday cards I often find blank ones are nicer than specifically birthday cards

@Scarby9

I never used to but have started in the last few years now my mum's memory is shot. It stops her opening all the cards repeatedly and asking who they are from and who they are to... At least she recognises her card from me as hers.

Oh that is bothe lovely and sad.

x x

I don't mind for birthdays are you are generally picking a personalised card anyway (in style or based on hobbies etc) but I am miffed that MIL insists on them at christmas. The first year DH and I were together I did nice boxed cards for the family, like I do for my own, and she phoned up DH and complained at him . Its easier to keep the peace and have to go into a card shop to find all the specific titles (MIL is "mam" so needs a mam and dad card, there's a "nanna" with three ns and a "nana" with two, who have very particular tastes in cards...) But I keep trying to stop them. Maybe when we have kids old enough I can get them to do homemade then segue into boxed cards when they're too old

My mother would have howled with laughter if I'd given her one of these.

If you mean Christmas cards, I don’t think I have ever bought any like that - I buy charity packs and everyone gets one from those.
Birthday cards - sometimes get one with the age or relationship on, sometimes get a generic one, depending which seems nicer.

Always bought named cards, always will.

I stopped, because I couldn't be doing with the faff or expense anymore. Nothing bad happened. Mum has never even mentioned it.

@katy1213

My mother would have howled with laughter if I'd given her one of these.

How bizarre.

Does your mother normally 'howl with laughter' like a banshee, when someone gives her a nice, thoughtful, carefully chosen greetings card.???

My mum is the least demanding person you've ever met but she loves a special card. I've been married 30 years and still send her one (signed from me and DH) and my now adult DC know to get a grandma one.

I don't do it for anyone else and I'm not bothered myself but she appreciates it so I keep doing it.