Passive aggressive neighbour

yellowmuma · 2020-12-09T11:25:02+00:00

We have new neighbours and to reverse onto my drive I have to slightly pull onto the path opposite our house. Just got home and the people over the road have come out saying I’m making all their alarms go off in the house every time I pull onto the drive, because I’m slightly pulling onto the path to reverse down my driveway. They said they have to come out every time to check they’re not being burgled. Now I’m worried I’ll be making their alarms go off all the while! Am I being a bit dramatic? I’m not doing anything wrong surely? I’ve never pulled into their drive, or even particularly close to it. Surely passers by would make the alarms go off if it’s sensitive enough to pick up my car mounting the pavement?

DecemberSun · 09/12/2020 11:26

Tell them to adjust the range of the alarm. You are not on their drive.

D4rwin · 09/12/2020 11:27

Surely it goes off every time the postie goes past then. Ignore and shrug. They need to adjust their alarm to their house because if YOU change your action it won't prevent it happening.

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yellowmuma · 09/12/2020 11:29

We’ve not long lived here either and don’t want to feel like I’m p*ng anyone off. If the road wasn’t so narrow and people didn’t park like a** holes down the street I wouldn’t bother reversing on. Can’t get the angle right if I don’t mount the path though, so not much I can do.

If it’s brought up again i’ll suggest them changing the alarm range.

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NoPointInWednesdays · 09/12/2020 11:34

Tbh I am in the same boat as your neighbours maybe not to that extent mind you. We moved into this house a year ago and the neighbour across our road does this but he does come into our drive at least the top of it anyway. He has a very big car but there is no need for it. Especially at night when his full beams are on and lights up our whole house. When I politely went and asked him if he could stop doing it ( you could turn a van no problem on our road it’s that wide enough ) he very aggressively shouting “ I’m not going on to your f*cking drive! “ I said I am more than happy to show him my ring doorbell he keeps setting off and he stormed off. Fast forward 4 months into living here, he was caught actually bumping into the front of my car, didn’t realise anyone seen him and when I went out to say I had seen what he had done he ran away into his house. He’s never done it since we had to get police involved and put a gate on our driveway but still likes to shine his full beams every night

ExclamationPerfume · 09/12/2020 11:36

You shouldn't be driving on any path.

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yellowmuma · 09/12/2020 11:41

@NoPointInWednesdays

Tbh I am in the same boat as your neighbours maybe not to that extent mind you. We moved into this house a year ago and the neighbour across our road does this but he does come into our drive at least the top of it anyway. He has a very big car but there is no need for it. Especially at night when his full beams are on and lights up our whole house. When I politely went and asked him if he could stop doing it ( you could turn a van no problem on our road it’s that wide enough ) he very aggressively shouting “ I’m not going on to your f*cking drive! “ I said I am more than happy to show him my ring doorbell he keeps setting off and he stormed off. Fast forward 4 months into living here, he was caught actually bumping into the front of my car, didn’t realise anyone seen him and when I went out to say I had seen what he had done he ran away into his house. He’s never done it since we had to get police involved and put a gate on our driveway but still likes to shine his full beams every night

that doesn’t sound fun.

My lights do shine into the opposite houses’ living room when I reverse on the drive but I turn them off straight away because I know I wouldn’t want headlights shining in my living room at night, but I have to slightly mount the path for the angle of my driveway so I just have no choice but to come up to their drive. I’ve done it for months so unsure why now it’s only just been mentioned but 🤷‍♀️

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yellowmuma · 09/12/2020 11:42

@ExclamationPerfume

You shouldn't be driving on any path.

I haven’t ‘driven’ on the path, I drive down the road, pull my front wheel on the path and reverse onto my driveway..

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unmarkedbythat · 09/12/2020 11:43

Their problem if they have installed a ridiculous alarm system that goes off if there is movement on the pavement outside their house.

ExclamationPerfume · 09/12/2020 11:44

Pulled/Driving same thing. You should not drive on the pavement ever.

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yellowmuma · 09/12/2020 11:48

@ExclamationPerfume

Pulled/Driving same thing. You should not drive on the pavement ever.

I’m not driving on the pavement

My wheels are a few CM on the kerb. If I didn’t have a dropped kerb and had to use the whole path to get on my drive, that is driving on the pavement. But if it makes you feel better - I’ll agree.

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Yubaba · 09/12/2020 11:48

I have to mount the pavement opposite my house to get the angle to park on my driveway too and the house opposite has to do the same on my side, The road is too narrow otherwise.

TheOrigRights · 09/12/2020 12:20

How are they being passive aggressive? They've come and talked to you about their issue.
The fact they've got their sensors on the pavement isn't PA, it's just a bit daft.

Malbecfan · 09/12/2020 12:29

Could you ask one of them to reverse their car onto your drive "to show you how to do it without setting off their alarm" whilst their partner monitors? If they can do it, you need to sort out your parking technique. If they to set it off, they know they need to move their alarm.

NoPointInWednesdays · 09/12/2020 13:06

See if it was just that like you are doing which would be completely fine by me and btw that’s a huge thing about turning the lights off he sits there with them on we timed him, 11 minutes on Monday night but it seems ever since we moved here he is trying to assert his authority so to speak our village is really hard to get into it’s a kind of only way you get in is if someone dies kind of place it’s great! But I think because we look young ( we’re not we’re 30 and 32 and certainly don’t look young any more after having a baby that doesn’t sleep ha ha 🤣 ) I think he was trying to do the whole territory thing but it back fired partner is a police officer. Tbh there’s ways of going about things if he had said listen pal I’m really sorry I didn’t realise I was coming so close and I’ll turn my lights off no bother I would have said not to worry and thank you so much then it would have been a whole different story, I think it’s how you approach things. My neighbour attached to us ( it’s a semi ) is so lovely she parks over our drive sometimes but if we ask her if she can move up a tiny bit she is so apologetic and has a wee natter, I actually think she just does it so she can see our dd lol 😂 it’s all about the approach IMO.

GabriellaMontez · 09/12/2020 13:12

Just ignore. They need to adjust the sensors.

Someone always says "you should never ever drive on the pavement " on these kind of threads. And just repeats it! Ignoring everything else.

FedUpAtHomeTroels · 09/12/2020 14:05

@ExclamationPerfume

Pulled/Driving same thing. You should not drive on the pavement ever.

Do be so ridiculous, to enter most driveways you drive across a pavement, or maybe your car can hover

ExclamationPerfume · 09/12/2020 14:32

@FedUpAtHomeTroels actually you drive over a reinforced dropped kerb. Not a standard pavement.

FedUpAtHomeTroels · 09/12/2020 18:00

Pedantic and unhelpful.

ViciousJackdaw · 09/12/2020 19:14

@ExclamationPerfume Why not be like your user name and make a statement without saying a word.