To give up and sell up our family home?

[Dotty07]

A while back I had a thread here regarding problems with my neighbour and it has escalated.
He complains about almost anything we do. He has been taking photos of my house, (don’t know why) if his dog is out the back it will not let me out, it barks, growls until I close the door, he will come and take it away eventually.
When he has family are round they come out the back mock and speak about is, not to us but they know we can hear.
He made the threat months ago about getting us back as i asked him to clean his dog dirt up.
Me and my child suffer from anxiety and my H feels helpless as I don’t want him to get in trouble because of my arse of a neighbour but he is just not letting go of what now seems like a vendetta.
I asked the police they have said no crime is being committed and his Landlord has done nothing.
So we are thinking of leaving our home!

I wouldn't see that as giving up, I'd see that as protecting yourselves and your family. Someone like this will never change. You just need to get as far away from them as you possibly can. Good luck

Yes of course.

It's sensible.

I would absolutely just move away. Nightmare neighbours are not a solvable problem. It's like someone opening a huge smelly factory right next to you. You move! Life is too short, it's a waste of energy, and even if you manage to get anti-social behaviour stopped, you still live with shitty neighbours when you could have lovely ones! Why do it?

Move!

I'd move.

Dotty, I had a look at your previous threads and clearly it’s been a fairly long term issue.
It’s a horrible situation. I would consider moving if I were you, but I would be checking out the market and try to optimise the timing for a quick sale and the opportunity to find an alternative.
Sorry it’s come to that but life is too short to live with the anxiety this is causing.

I had an awful flatmate for a year. It really does affect you. You will be so much happier without all the tension.

Yes definitely move - a home is somewhere you feel relaxed and happy in and this house isn't ticking the boxes. I'd go as far as to suggest that you do it as covertly as possible so as not to give them more ammo. What dreadful people 💐

I recognize your situation and yes, I think this is the only solution, you have lived in this horrible situation of anxiety and stress for a long time now and he isn't going to change, so I think the change will have to be from you by leaving. It is sad, but it's an opportunity for a new future without this stress and that will be invaluable.

Thanks, it does seem to be looking this way that we will have to move. I’ve had to be seen by Docs twice since July due to anxiety and now the school is helping my child.

I’m in Scotland, does anyone know who to approach if Landlords do not deal with complaints.

If moving is a realistic option do it.

I remember your previous thread, your situation sounds dreadful. If you have contacted the Police, would you have to declare your problems with your neighbours when selling (I don't know the rules in Scotland).

I would move. If you were very rich, you could buy his home and serve him notice, but I don't imagine you are in that situation.

Another option is to rent your house out, and rent somewhere else, if you don't want to go down the selling route.

But the EA costs etc may make this unaffordable actually...

What about your buyer? You will have to declare the neighbour problem on the Seller's Information Form. Who wants to buy into a bad neighbour? In France there is something called ''vice cache'' where any know problem hidden from buyer is a serious matter and such sellers get taken to court - even years after the sale.

Hi @Dotty07 try your local council Antisocial Behaviour team in Scotland, for help with the ongoing situation.
As to selling, the home report does not require you to disclose his behaviour; but it could come up if discussing the shared garden.
Good luck.

I would discuss your options with a legal professional, it will cost you some money to move. Weighing up the options to see if a cease and desist letter would stop the harassment. Most people talk a lot of talk but when it comes to being held accountable they started back tracking. He may even leave as a result.

Else if that’s unlikely to happen moving is always a good, more expensive option B.