Would you address this?

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I have 2 children. Girl & Boy.

I’m starting to notice a bit of favouritism from grandparent A.
Always wanted a girl in the family but recently the treatment she is giving both of my children seems to be different based on this and I’m starting to feel the need to comment on it.

My daughter gets addressed to in her Christmas card as ‘our best girl’ instead of her name. My sons card is addressed as ‘to x’

My daughter gets more things bought for her, clothes, accessories etc.

My son has started to notice and has said to me recently ‘where’s mine’ when my daughter was given more clothes.

Is it worth gently explaining to grandparent A how this is coming across? My son can’t read yet but for some reason, seeing the Christmas cards has made me feel a little sad for him.
He’s not the only grandson but I really don’t see the need to be addressing my daughter as ‘our best girl’ when we also have a son.

I’ve had a really tough time recently and I’m questioning my judgement a lot, so be gentle!

Should I gently raise it or just ignore it?

'It's lovely to see your connection with DD, but please make sure it doesn't tip over into accidental visible favouritism. I'm sure you wouldn't want DS or other GC to feel less valued. Probably best not to buy things again for DD without also buying for DS, we need them to be treated equally.'

A gentle nudge may be all you need.

Perfect response. Thank you!

Gives me the rage that older people see girls as needing treats and clothes. Definitely stamp it out.

That's the kind of message a line manager sends an errant colleague. You'll be lucky if it doesn't cause major offence. Especially if grandparent is one of your DPs parents, and not one of your parents.

Ideally the DP would say it verbally and tactfully.
My guess is the GPs are so delighted to have a girl GC at last they have gone a bit overboard. When pointed out they'll rein back.

I'd say "why have you got dd a gift and not ds?"

Yes, I would say something.