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AIBU to be massively pissed off at this doctor?

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tealjourneys · 08/12/2020 11:04

My dad is currently in hospital for alcohol related issues. I haven't been able to see him since before he was admitted (early September) due to covid, which I obviously understand, but I still phone him regularly. During our phone call yesterday, he said that one of the doctors had brought their teenager for a "tour of the ward" - apparently it was a "look what happens if you drink too much" sort of thing. My dad didn't know that this was happening nor did he give consent for the kid to see him etc. AIBU to be pissed off that 1. a random teenager can see my dad but I can't, and 2. this doctor has been using real people who didn't give consent as bad examples (for lack of a better word)? I get that teenagers need to be educated on the damage alcohol can do, but this is just wrong isn't it?

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Harmarsuperstar · 08/12/2020 11:06

Are you sure that's what happened? Could your dad have misunderstood what was happening somehow?
I work in a hospital and this is not the sort of thing that generally happens tbh.

contrmary · 08/12/2020 11:06

YANBU, that is completely out of order on so many levels. You should definitely report it.

Harmarsuperstar · 08/12/2020 11:08

I would definitely question the staff as to what was going on. If it did happen it's outrageous and someone should be disciplined

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tealjourneys · 08/12/2020 11:11

Are you sure that's what happened?

I can't be sure as I wasn't there, but there's not many things a random teen could be doing on a ward are there?

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LittleMissLockdown · 08/12/2020 11:11

Is this in the UK? I just cannot imagine this would happen in normal times let alone during a pandemic.

Many hospitals are restricting visitors so it seems completely bizarre to think a doctor would bring his teen into a high risk environment just to have a talk about drinking. Is your father 100% sure this is what happened, it honestly sounds so far fetched?

VinylDetective · 08/12/2020 11:12

I’ve just filed this under Things that didn’t happen.

OhCaptain · 08/12/2020 11:14

This doesn't sound real. At all. I'd take it with a vat of salt, to be honest.

raspberryk · 08/12/2020 11:14

Pretty sure that didn’t happen!

phoebebuffayhannigan · 08/12/2020 11:15

YANBU .

Having cardiology tests once - that could have been very bad news - I was asked if x could accompany me as she was on placement . X sat in the entire day - including an ultrasound, ecg, treadmill, and very tearful chat with cardiologist and nurse .

After chatting to x towards the end of appointment - who I had assumed to be a medical student age 19/20 - it turned out she was 14, mum was the nurse in charge and she fancied seeing what her mum did for a living . She just sat in the corner all day watching ... Still can’t believe anyone thought that was OK .

hopefulhalf · 08/12/2020 11:20

I don't think this can be right, maybe a medical student ?

thebakeoffwasntasgoodthisyear · 08/12/2020 11:26

I’d check the factors first with the ward manager. I work in healthcare and I’ve unfortunately overheard patients refer to qualified staff as teenagers! A patient complained about seeing a “young girl” for physiotherapy - turned out to be ax experienced physiotherapist in her late 20’s. Until I was about 30 I was often asked if I was old enough to be in my job Hmm

hopefulhalf · 08/12/2020 11:30

Very good point, the junior doctors changed this week a "new" FY1 would be 23 so could easily look like a teenager

VinylDetective · 08/12/2020 11:46

It’s a running joke with my equally aged friends that some of the doctors we encounter look about 12.

Twinkie01 · 08/12/2020 11:53

I'd say if you were in the UK it'd be next to impossible to get someone on the ward who didn't need to be there. DS was recently in hospital and DH and I could only swap to stay with him once and that was in extreme circumstances.

DimidDavilby · 08/12/2020 11:55

Absolutely outrageous if its true.

MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 08/12/2020 11:56
Hmm
Brighterthansunflowers · 08/12/2020 11:56

I would take it with a pinch of salt tbh, it seems so incredibly unlikely that in the middle of a pandemic a random teen would be strolling through the ward for a lesson on the dangers of alcohol

GabsAlot · 08/12/2020 11:56

could it have been a student on placement-my dsis gets called young girl al the time people think shes a teen she sin her 30s

bbadgerbrush · 08/12/2020 12:11

I'd call the ward to find out more info. Even if they're not a teen and are a medical student on a placement etc. they still need to ask your father for his consent.
I started shadowing people/ work experience when I was about 14 and without fail I was introduced to the patient and it was explained that my presence was optional.

CorianderQueen · 08/12/2020 12:11

Are you sure it wasn't a prospective medical student doing experience on the ward? My sister did this at 16.

CookieMumsters · 08/12/2020 12:14

I'd phone the ward and explain this is what your dad thinks has happened. I'd say its likely to be a junior doctor, but obviously they haven't explained well enough to him who they area.

Hairyfairy01 · 08/12/2020 12:21

My money is on it being a junior doctor or possibly a medical student. To be fair some of them do look work experience age even to me, but I think that's just because I'm getting older!

CorianderQueen · 08/12/2020 12:21

My sister is also often called the ' work experience girl' because she's 5ft and looks very young.

She's a 27 year old doctor.

CherryPavlova · 08/12/2020 12:35

Yep, not a chance drawer

bs9er · 08/12/2020 12:35

I don't think this happened.

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