We’ve all heard about being ghosted by a man/woman on internet dating, casual relationships etc.. but has anyone ever been ghosted by a friend? How did you deal with it?
I had a friend, we knew each for years- since we were 10. We were “best friends” growing up. As we became adults, sometimes we’d be close, other times not.
Anyway, a couple of years she just stopped replying to my text. Once our sons had stopped going to pre school together. I asked if she fancied going for a walk, no reply. I text again a few weeks later asking how she was. No reply.
About a month later, a mutual friend mentioned that she was going to this friends wedding soon.
I felt upset, and analysed absolutely everything. The last few texts, our last conversations.
I mentioned it to our mutual friend, but she said she didn’t know. I sent a messages to her. It was a nice text, just saying that I hope i didn’t upset her, and that I hope she has a lovely day. It was genuine and I was careful to word it incase she took it as passive aggressive. She read it and didn’t reply.
Last year the mutual friend did mention that the friend did say something but she couldn’t exactly remember. Something about me being “bitchy”.
I don’t feel that I am. I never talked badly of people to this friend, the only people we used to talk badly of were our ex’s!
Every few months or so, I still think about it.
I think it is the lack of closure. That if I have done something wrong to cause offence, I’d like to know.
However, she has done this to someone before. She cut someone off, who she was really close to. When I questioned it, she said it was cos this friend was “toxic” to her. Maybe I was too? Maybe there is something about me that I don’t see?
I understand cutting people off is needed at times, when they harm your well-being. But I don’t agree with just leaving them hanging and wondering what they did wrong.
Any similar stories?