Looking for opinions as both myself and dp think we are right.
DP broke up with his ex partner and moved out of their house earlier this year and moved into his parents temporarily with his dog. Covid hit and he stayed there since. I’ve just asked him to move in and he’s here every day and I think it’s fair to let him contribute and have his own space for things etc instead of it being my house. Now the pet situation.
I have 2 young cats who don’t like his dog at all. She is 1 and very puppy like but unfortunately a very big dog for her age. For some reason she is very attached to me despite only staying a few times, she lives at his parents. I don’t feel like he is strict enough with her. She can’t be left in a room alone without whining or barking the place down, chases my cats even when they move away, doesn’t listen or settle. Because of this she is always with us when in the house and my cats have been pushed into one room during this time as she’ll otherwise chase them in their own home.
DP wants to put them in a room to ‘sort it out’ but I won’t put my cats in a situation they feel they need to use violence. I can’t even go in one room with the cats and the dog in another with him as she cries for me.
I’m pulling my hair out. I don’t want to lose this relationship but i can’t see how to make it work when he uses ‘she’s a puppy’ for every excuse and my cats are becoming prisoners in their own house.